I'm looking for any one that has been falsely arrested or charged with a crime of domestic injunction violation. Where either the police failed to investigate as per Fla laws, the States rush to prosecute or the courts failure to insure due process rights. I am planing to take this information to the Senate. I have already spoken to Senators as well as the Governors office about these problems and have documented it for the last 5 years. --michael dunseith (posting from archive)
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Posted by Name U on 08/25/03 06:38 AM
I live in Ohio but I know how you feel.
I was arrested and charged with D.V.,after I was assaulted by my
ex-wife.She told the police I hit her.She had no marks on her,
I did.I did eventually win my trial though.The prosecutor in the case,
tried to withold key evidence that sealed my case.The arresting
officer
testified in court,that he was not qualified to do an
investigation,which also helped.Yet I still lost a $50,000 a year job
and spent $10,000 in atty.fees.Where is the justice in that? --B.Justice (posting from archive)
I was arrested and charged with D.V.,after I was assaulted by my
ex-wife.She told the police I hit her.She had no marks on her,
I did.I did eventually win my trial though.The prosecutor in the case,
tried to withold key evidence that sealed my case.The arresting
officer
testified in court,that he was not qualified to do an
investigation,which also helped.Yet I still lost a $50,000 a year job
and spent $10,000 in atty.fees.Where is the justice in that? --B.Justice (posting from archive)
Posted by Name U on 08/25/03 06:39 AM
You can contact me at the email address and if I feel comfortable
with you, then I might send you the information that you might need. --JGH (posting from archive)
with you, then I might send you the information that you might need. --JGH (posting from archive)
Posted by Name U on 08/25/03 06:40 AM
We need to help each other. I have been falsely accused of DV. I
will give you the details when we speak on the phone. I live in
Orlando, Fl and the system (Judge, State Attorney, Cops and my kids
School) have been treating me like a criminal although I did
nothing. I want to help and perhaps since I am retired and I have
plenty of time, start a non-profit to support men who have been
falsely accused. I also want to try to get the voice heard up in
Congress and State legislation so that we can get improvements to
this family law that are very biased. --Pedro Deliz (posting from archive)
will give you the details when we speak on the phone. I live in
Orlando, Fl and the system (Judge, State Attorney, Cops and my kids
School) have been treating me like a criminal although I did
nothing. I want to help and perhaps since I am retired and I have
plenty of time, start a non-profit to support men who have been
falsely accused. I also want to try to get the voice heard up in
Congress and State legislation so that we can get improvements to
this family law that are very biased. --Pedro Deliz (posting from archive)
Posted by Name U on 08/25/03 06:42 AM
My husband was a police lieutenant who was falsely accused of
committing domestic violence against his ex-wife. Because of such
allegations, he lost his career (of 15 years) as a police officer. I
spent the last four years writing Representatives, Senators and even
Governor Bush regarding his situation and got no where. Even with
the amount of evidence we had against his ex-wife, no one seemed to
care. I lost all respect for politicans after that. --Angela Triplett (posting from archive)
committing domestic violence against his ex-wife. Because of such
allegations, he lost his career (of 15 years) as a police officer. I
spent the last four years writing Representatives, Senators and even
Governor Bush regarding his situation and got no where. Even with
the amount of evidence we had against his ex-wife, no one seemed to
care. I lost all respect for politicans after that. --Angela Triplett (posting from archive)
Posted by Name U on 08/25/03 06:43 AM
I live in Ohio and have been wrongly accused of domestic violence by
my Thai wife who wants her green card. What can I do? --Anonymous (posting from archive)
my Thai wife who wants her green card. What can I do? --Anonymous (posting from archive)
Posted by Hunter B on 08/27/04 11:04 PM
Dear Anonymous:
I live in New York and am going through the same thing with my Chinese wife who wants her Green Card. Can you please provide some advice? My e-mail is bcc1@cornell.edu
Thank you.
Posted by Jade R on 08/28/04 02:36 PM
I'd also recommend looking at http://www.safe4all.org/help
Please contact me at zealhai@yahoo.com
I personally know a man who has been falsely accused for domestic violence and has been charged for four years in prison along with deportation at the end of time serve.
I personally know a man who has been falsely accused for domestic violence and has been charged for four years in prison along with deportation at the end of time serve.
Posted by Ron M on 09/08/04 02:20 PM
Hi:
Although I'm from Saskatchewan Canada, the government here has bragged for 10 years that they were one of the first jurisdictions to impliment a Victims of Domestic Violence Act. They stated that many other states, provinces and countries were contacting them to find out how to do the same. They have even sent out representatives to train and explain the law. It may well be that Florida was one of these. If you are interested in reading how I was affected and how I prevailed (but was still harmed) read my story and my daughter's speech on this website under "John #1"
My new email is norsman@accesscomm.ca
Good luck with all this!
Ron Montgomery
Although I'm from Saskatchewan Canada, the government here has bragged for 10 years that they were one of the first jurisdictions to impliment a Victims of Domestic Violence Act. They stated that many other states, provinces and countries were contacting them to find out how to do the same. They have even sent out representatives to train and explain the law. It may well be that Florida was one of these. If you are interested in reading how I was affected and how I prevailed (but was still harmed) read my story and my daughter's speech on this website under "John #1"
My new email is norsman@accesscomm.ca
Good luck with all this!
Ron Montgomery
Posted by Ron M on 09/09/04 04:26 PM
Hi. Please read the incredible story by Steven Greenslade
entitled, "What can I do ?", on the main forum of this website. Also contact him. There might be some familiar stuff in his situation that applies to you.
Good Luck
Ron Montgomery
entitled, "What can I do ?", on the main forum of this website. Also contact him. There might be some familiar stuff in his situation that applies to you.
Good Luck
Ron Montgomery
Posted by christie s on 10/12/04 07:38 PM
All I can say is it's about time someone stood up to take notice of the abuse men are subject to only because the other party was having a bad day, Don't get me wrong if there is genuine abuse than it is a crime, But the laws are totally for women!! I am a women, I am a mother. My son is charged with domestic volience. The whole senario this women
based her charges on is entirely false.
Thank god there are no children involved. These women who file false charges should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. I am here to say if there is anything I can do to help with your efforts just say so. This has gone far enough. Ohio mother.
based her charges on is entirely false.
Thank god there are no children involved. These women who file false charges should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. I am here to say if there is anything I can do to help with your efforts just say so. This has gone far enough. Ohio mother.
Posted by Steven B on 11/10/04 10:58 AM
Hello Pedro,
I just found the SAFE site and your posting of a year ago:
We need to help each other. I have been falsely accused of DV. I
will give you the details when we speak on the phone. I live in
Orlando, Fl and the system (Judge, State Attorney, Cops and my kids
School) have been treating me like a criminal although I did
nothing. I want to help and perhaps since I am retired and I have
plenty of time, start a non-profit to support men who have been
falsely accused. I also want to try to get the voice heard up in
Congress and State legislation so that we can get improvements to
this family law that are very biased. --Pedro Deliz (posting from archive)
Are you still motivated to taking action?
Regards,
Steve Bedigian
Posted by Jade R on 11/10/04 07:58 PM
If you are motivated to take action, consider joining Stop Abuse For Everyone and forming a chapter in your area. We're working to ensure that all victims of domestic violence are treated with respect and dignity, and that laws are crafted to protect people against false accusations.
Posted by Patricia and Paul C on 11/30/04 07:29 PM
We currently live in broward county and my husband has been falsely accused of domestic violence/repeat domestic violence by his ex-wife in palm beach county. I researched with palm beach court house asking what an individual needs to do to claim domestic violence and in palm beach county all you have to do is make the claim. The broward court system is alittle better they require police reports. I have called the state attorney's office in palm beach, senators, governers who all responded that this was not their area. The ex-wife received a temporary injunction just 6 six months ago - even though she moved 6months prior we had no contact with her until our attorney wrote the school requesting my husband's son's records (which my husband has shared custody) she wrote a letter to the court stating my husband threatened to kill her. Even though we told the judge we have had no contact with her and didn't know where she was - he awarded the temp. injunction (civil) in family court the judge dismissed it. It is even noted on the court order that her injunctions for domestic violence are highly suspect by the judge, but it still gets us nowwhere. I have been with my husband for 3 years now, and I believe it is outrageous how the system currently works, I understand it is a major liability because of law suits to protect the county and court systems but what happened to due process and why aren't the individuals who make these false acqusations held accountable.
Posted by Kim B on 01/14/05 03:05 AM
My husband was falsely charged and convicted of securities fraud in Orlando Florida last year. He had all kinds of proof that he did nothing wrong but, with an ineffective attorney, a horribly biased judge, prosecutorial misconduct, and very wealthy "victims" paying people and pushing the courts, he was found guilty and sentenced to 3 years. Now, still in jail, the "victims" have decided to push the prosecutors to file more charges against him, which they have done. He has proof that there is no basis for these last charges but the proof is in the files that his ineffective attorney had. He won't speak with me and left a message that he sent them all to my husband's former attorney (who told me he has received nothing). Does anyone know how I go about getting the files from this idiot or if he even has a responsibility to keep them? The Florida justice system is crazy--we keep asking ourselves "where does this all end". The so-called "victims" are the criminals in this case and they're running free! It is all a game for the prosecutors and since most people plead out on their charges, it's still a win for them. They get to go home to their children but my husband hasn't been able to hug his 6 year old son for a year now! I have written letters to Governor Bush but he says they can do nothing---so what exactly IS he supposed to be doing as Governor?? I also wrote the Orange County Public Defender (whom we have to use now since exhausting all our funds on bad attorneys)and they don't want to help him, they just want him to take a plea and waste a few more years of his life. If anyone has any suggestions or can help in any way, you can email me at kissez4tiff @aol.com
Posted by Jeff M on 04/11/05 07:49 PM
Read my post entitled what a nightmare. Yes we do all need to get together in Florida and get this dealt with. Just pray that your wife isn't having an affair with a law enforcment officer. please feel free to e mail me also.
mfogg2@yahoo.com
mfogg2@yahoo.com
Posted by Nick N on 06/05/05 06:45 PM
I have been arrested for DV in Florida and have been told by my lawer that this is a "political" crime and to prove I did not do it would be almost impossible. It is best to plea to a lesser charge. In fact everyone "in the system" said forget justice just work with the system and limit the damage. In Florida well more the 50% of the men in jail are in for DV and the numbers are growning. People lose there job, car and home for a crime they did not do. All a women has to do is call 911 and say a guy hit her and he will be put in jail with out bail. If there are others who want to make this law fair to all please feel free to contact me. I also ask the people at Safe to step up and look at the facts. You should be the first in line to fix these problems.
Posted by Jade R on 06/05/05 10:50 PM
Nick, that's exactly what we're working on. I'm not sure about the 50% statistic -- if you have a source for that, I'd love to see it. But regardless of what the statistics are, domestic violence is serious for anyone involved, and the laws need to protect people against false accusations instead of making the situation worse. That's one of the things Stop Abuse For Everyone is fighting for.
If any of you are interested in doing something about it, look at our Startup Manual -- it's a step by step guide to getting set up as a local chapter of SAFE to help change the system to make it inclusive for ALL victims of domestic violence, regardless of gender or sexual orientation or anything else the law shouldn't matter about.
We don't make one set of laws about murder for men and women, gay or straight, and we shouldn't do the same for domestic violence laws either. What should matter is what you do, not who you are.
Posted by Nick N on 06/07/05 08:57 AM
I have time to work on this problem and I feel this is an area which someone of good will needs to step up with new ideas. I just do not know where to start. I know there are alot of people who work in the systen, where are they? Is there any movement to make these laws more fair?
Someone who is in system gave me the numbers of -- more than 50% of all people in jail are in for something to do with DV. That 99% are men. That 90%+ of the people first arrested are rearrested. That bail is not usually set and often people "plea out" just to get out of jail. No one as told me these number are wrong. I am sure the system must keep numbers on this. From what I have learned the numbers themself prove there is a problem with this law. There must be people of good will in the system who know this and want to fix something that is wrong. If you go to jail and must stay without a trial you lose your job, maybe your home, car etc. Do we need more people who can not support themself? People who run this website must know the facts why can't they put the number on the web site for all to see. Project Safe says they want all to be safe, well if this is true do you think putting someone in jail who did nothing wrong is living up to what you say?
Someone who is in system gave me the numbers of -- more than 50% of all people in jail are in for something to do with DV. That 99% are men. That 90%+ of the people first arrested are rearrested. That bail is not usually set and often people "plea out" just to get out of jail. No one as told me these number are wrong. I am sure the system must keep numbers on this. From what I have learned the numbers themself prove there is a problem with this law. There must be people of good will in the system who know this and want to fix something that is wrong. If you go to jail and must stay without a trial you lose your job, maybe your home, car etc. Do we need more people who can not support themself? People who run this website must know the facts why can't they put the number on the web site for all to see. Project Safe says they want all to be safe, well if this is true do you think putting someone in jail who did nothing wrong is living up to what you say?
Posted by Jade R on 06/08/05 11:01 AM
Nick: look around our website. You're attacking the wrong folks. :)
Posted by Dale Z on 02/01/06 07:58 AM
I have recently started a group called "Florida Justice Project"
I was falsely accused of stalking, aggravated stalking, and aggravated stalking following an injunction.
These charges were brought by a person that has a life packed with ebb & flows. She is a bi-polar alcoholic.
I was never arrested in my 56 years, until I was cuffed at my work in the mall, and placed in jail without bond for 37 days.
My trial will be coming up soon, and anyone that has any information that is in sync with my situation, I would appreciate your comments. This occured in Collier County (Naples FL) and now I am receiving threats that my bond is being revoked.
I am soliciting assistance from congressmen to pass legislation that would make it more difficult to simply encarcerate an innocent man based on a false affidavit.
It is a felony to file a false affidavit, and punishable by 5 years in prison. This woman made a false statement, and I have written proof of this. I am told that the state will not go after her for perjury as to not discourage other women from filing charges. "What about the men that suffer due to these false allegations?"
I was given NO Miranda warning, NO phone call, and my due process rights were trampled. I hope that you can share my story, give some feedback, and join the Florida Justiice Project.
Sincerely,
Dale R. Zurbriggen
Founder Florida Justice Project
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/florida_justice_project/
Posted by Dale Z on 02/01/06 08:04 AM
Just a footnote:
We have contacted the Naples Daily News, and the court correspondent responded by accusing me of being a "Whiney convict that is claiming that there is a conspiracy against him by the whole system" Is someone in this mans pocket?
He was not interested in correcting or exposing injustice in Collier County. The sheriff, Don Hunter has been in position for over 20 years, and no one runs against him. what does that tell you?
Since the locals won't follow up, I have contacted Fox News, and sent a letter to Bill O'Reilly of "The O' Reilly Factor"
Keep your fingers crossed.
More to come..........
Dale
I was falsely arrested in January 2006 for the crime of Aggravated Stalking. A girl I had just broken up with took a bunch of emails and text messages that I'd sent her during the course of our relationship to the police. She said she never replied to any of them (a blatent lie) and that I'd been stalking her for 6 months, when in reality she was out drinking with my friends and I 36 hrs prior to my arrest. She also told the police that I was suicidal and that I'd threatened to murder myself, her, and her room mate with a handgun I owned. To make a longs story short, the police came into my home with guns drawn, Baker Acted me, arrested me, and took me to jail. I was a paralegal for 4 years in the Army, so I knew to invoke my Miranda rights, and I said not one word to the police. I was also served a tempory injunction against repeat violence, which I consented to in court to help my criminal case. I am a college student with a 3.8 overall GPA in Professional Writing, and I am an Army ROTC cadet as well. This girl has used the criminal justice system to try and ruin my life, and it nearly has. I have spent $5K thus far on my attorney and we are working to get my case dismissed. The intake prosecutor already decided there was no evidence to charge me with aggravated, so they decided to file as a misdemeanor charge. No one has heard my side of the story yet and I wait in limbo and fear of what is going to happen to my future career. What can I do to stop this from happening to someone else?
B
Posted by Laura P on 05/12/06 06:33 AM
I have been a victim of every single aspect of what you just posted. I am a woman that abhors violence due to seeing too much of it growing up. I live in Martin County where there is not any proper training about domestic abuse and how to handle it with regard to intake, police calls, court procedure and so on. I have done benefits for womens shelters and now I am in this situation. I cannot believe it. I need help ASAP.
In a nutshell, my sister is 45 and I am 43. She and I have always been very close, we are 16 months apart without any other siblings. She somehow got involved with this convicted federal felon who has been in prison for 13 years and is on federal parole. My sister is a lady and she would never be with this type of guy if she was not being severely abused. He has cut off her hair, keeps her locked in her bedroom like a hostage, broken her telephones, treats her like a dog, he has eliminated all ability of contact with her entire family over the last few years. I have no doubt in my mind that she is a victim of Stockholm Syndrome. I know this from thourough research.
I tried to get her to get a restraining order against him. He went and got one against me. I had criminal mischief on my car before the hearing. He got the restraining order against me without any evidence that is credibile and valid. I have never had any arrests of domestic abuse with this guy. I have witnessed him strangling my sister. He recently was chasing my sister around the house with a chain saw. This man put my sister's address on the restraining order as his employment address. This is not where he works. I cannot even go to my sisters house. I was arrested for violating the restraining order due to being at her house. I didn't realize he had done this. Now the Martin County system wants to throw me in jail for 5 months for this. THIS NEEDS TO BE IMMEDIATELY ADDRESSED. PLEASE CONTACT ME.
Posted by William R on 05/13/06 02:20 PM
It started with me doing some investigating on my wife with her new friends. They turned out to be cocaine dealers. The next thing I know her mom and her talked me into leaving the home for a two week period so she could think about things. The next thing I know she had a DVI placed on me which included the children, school, her parents. Already in Personal therapy for my recent diagnosis of MS and my marriage, I endured a simultaneous 6 weeks of counseling for report to the court to be able to see my children. To no avail we left mediation and no visitation. I was arrested that evening for Aggrevated Stalking and had to post $25,000 bond. I had no prior arrests and the only thing the DA has supplied to my attorney are three voice messages to her parents. No threats of violence on any of the messages. I filed a report with Child Protective Services in October and after 6 week investigation they found nothing wrong. Yet 6 months later another report was filed by someone else with the same allegations and CPS removed the children from the home. Judges , Attorneys including my former one, Law Enforcement, and the DA need to take a good look at themselves. Peace of mind though, the children are in a safe place now. I am jumping through hoops at this moment to retain custody of the children and the marital home back. The substance abuse and addictions of my soon to be exwife are going to require considerable treatment. She is still in denial even after failing her drug test by CPS. Now her parents are even concerned, where were they when I tried to tell them of what was happening. The father I believe has even made it harder with his influences in the community. God Bless the children who have endured so much. I look forward to seeing them it has been 32 weeks now
Posted by Mia R on 09/10/06 11:14 PM
If you think there is ONLY women who makes false reports- well you're dead wrong.
I am sitting on 8 falsified reports from DCF in Florida + 10 falsified police-reports made by my ex husband. His brother works for local Police department and they are hiding evidence to protect his brother. I have been fighting this for about eight years now, and spent over
$ 50 000 to defend myself against all these falsified crap.Everything has been proven to be just made up over and over again.
I have lost my house and now I am forced to shut down my company because I am not able to keep paying lawyers for this crap anymore.
I wish someone could tell me how I am suppose to feed my three children, or is he EVER going to be held responsible for all this ???????
I am sitting on 8 falsified reports from DCF in Florida + 10 falsified police-reports made by my ex husband. His brother works for local Police department and they are hiding evidence to protect his brother. I have been fighting this for about eight years now, and spent over
$ 50 000 to defend myself against all these falsified crap.Everything has been proven to be just made up over and over again.
I have lost my house and now I am forced to shut down my company because I am not able to keep paying lawyers for this crap anymore.
I wish someone could tell me how I am suppose to feed my three children, or is he EVER going to be held responsible for all this ???????
Posted by Alloy J on 09/17/06 12:01 AM
Michael:
Thank you for this posting. I would like to speak with you further with regard to my current situation. I was wrongfully arrested for 784.048(2). My retained defense attorney has just notified me that the case was dismissed per the rquest of the State Attorney. I will have more details. Currently, there is a Temporary Injunction in place. Both statements made by my ex-fiance are both fabricated and frivolous. There is also evidence of defamation and perjury on her part. If you should decide to discuss this further with me, please contact me through here for now and we can then attempt to move forward from there.
Thank you.
SG
Posted by Alloy J on 09/17/06 12:06 AM
I just need to state that I am glad to find others here who have suffered from similar false claims. Aand I do agree that we need to work together to help mandate tighter guidelines and bring back true due process.
Posted by Danny b on 09/26/06 04:36 AM
Hello I am in a big battle with the courts right now in Florida (Sarasota) on these false charges and I was arrested and plead out in court because they would not bail me out because I live in another state and I was loosing everything the mother of my ex. knows the DA and the judges and nobody will help me I have a warrant out for my arrest right now as we speech for nothing she stating have hack her computer I have never made any Threats To her or my kids and when i told the judge this she just said o well she is just using this to keep away my kids I lost a $50,000 dollar a year job and I could not afford a lawyer now I have one but he is a low cost one and I don't think he really cares but I have not seen my kids in a long time I had to have supervised visits and when I went down there to see my kids they arrested me at the visitation center my ex. has been calling me and harassing me and they will not put one on her every time I told the judge this she told me she can contact me all she wants and do what ever she wants because she dose not have a order on her people should not be able to just get a order like that for no reason you want to contact me the email me I will give you my number there is a lot more to this story
Posted by wanda f on 10/15/06 07:53 PM
my brother is in the broward county jail in florida under a a $1,000,000 bond and has been there for 10 months. he appointed me durable power of attorney and with this i have able to access all of his records. bank records cell phone records. i have proved that he was not florida at the time he was accused of and i am receiving his cell phone records with in the next day or two and this will really prove him innocent. he is sceduled for a calendar call thursday, and then they will decide if he goes to trial on the oct 23rd.
you can call my sister in alabama and she will tell you the whole miserable story. 205-854-8452 or 205-613-6235.
we have called everybody nobody will listen. my brother is innocent and i know that for a fact. his name is robert danny owens 500600250 broward county jail.
thanks
wanda
you can call my sister in alabama and she will tell you the whole miserable story. 205-854-8452 or 205-613-6235.
we have called everybody nobody will listen. my brother is innocent and i know that for a fact. his name is robert danny owens 500600250 broward county jail.
thanks
wanda
Posted by Rhonda H on 11/08/06 03:12 AM
My son (19) was charged with an injunction for repeat violence via his girlfriends (17) grandmother on the "FEAR he was going to leave the state with the girl" the judge granted the DVI without any violence and my son still lives at home with me under my roof....He was attending college working toward an engineering degree and had a full time job now he is on GPS and is limited to his driving.....How this woman was able to obtain such a paper is beyond belief...I feel like part of my soul has been riped out and my son is not even able to continue his life or education because all Santa Rosa County Florida cops can do is look for the young teens to mess with because they're no REAL threat!!!!!!!!!!!!! Several times I have wanted to write the Senators, governor, etc but I can't even get answers from Sheriff Wendall Hall
Posted by Kevin W on 11/25/06 06:27 AM
you have no idea how bad this has been for me it is unbelievable feel free to contact me
Posted by Kevin W on 11/25/06 07:11 AM
since i began this journey almost two years ago i have spent 70 thousand dollars. and still am not with my son. i was served with a temporary inj and tricked in to making phone calls threatening the x after being served she would call me and engage me in conversation and tell me i would never see my son again and hang up knowing full well i would call back mad and raise hell. the whole time before going to court having sexual relations with me. then she got the full order on may 23 2005 and on fathers day two weeks later went on vacation with me. after that contagiously coming around as long as she got what she wanted when she didnt she had me arrested for violation of an injunction. all total 7 charges of that and one count of agg stalking. the prosecuting attorney wont listen the judges wont. in the agg stalking case the judge ordered her not to have contact with me. she then came to my house had sex and testified in a bond revocation hearing that she did it. she has been issued a motion to show cause why she should not be held in contempt of court. as i see it she violated a court order just like i did and if she doesnt get 90 days in jail just like i did. im afraid i dont know what i will do. these laws in florida must be changed if a person files an injunction and then goes around that person the should be put in jail. do the courts not realize they are the cause of ordinarlly people flipping out and doing things they would never ordinarlly do. they better wake up
Posted by bob W on 01/15/07 10:26 PM
WOW. My wife hit me a couple years ago she admitted it to the Santa Rosa county deputy but said when she threw the iron skillit at me it was an accident then she put a restraining order on me. Now i caught her doing drugs again and called dcf now she is mad and had her boyfriend lie and put a restraining order on me and she is having me put in jail for violating the ro she lies she has friends that are cops email me i will tell you more
Posted by Diana F on 01/20/07 06:47 PM
My son was recently arrested for stalking charges. The gal who did this against him even admits this was something she did not intend to do. Over zealous advocates, cops pushing her, etc. She was more concerned he would harm himself than anyone. She admits and knows he would never harm anyone! His problem is harming himself as he did and left a bloody hand print (stupid as that was) on her car. Again, hurting himself. All this due to depression over her on again off again for a relationship and doctors prescribing antidepressants (wellbutrin and Prozac) that caused adverse reactions in his system making him suicidal. He has been in Collier Cty Jail for 2 weeks now. Almost 1 wk on suicide watch. Collier police earlier in the day broke into our house saying they were concerned over his safety and tried to baker act him. They would not take him due to the excessive shaking from the meds we were getting out of his system and took him to the hospital instead who released him to me afterwards. Then they show up at 1:30 am to arrest him. It appears Collier Cty finds using Domestic Violence as a money maker on their end. Gosh knows, the public looses all theirs. My son is a good person whose only crime is hurting himself, NOT OTHERS!
Posted by Diana F on 01/20/07 06:59 PM
My son was recently arrested for stalking charges. The gal who did this against him even admits this was something she did not intend to do. Over zealous advocates, cops pushing her, etc. She was more concerned he would harm himself than anyone. She admits and knows he would never harm anyone! His problem is harming himself as he did and left a bloody hand print (stupid as that was) on her car. Again, hurting himself. All this due to depression over her on again off again for a relationship and doctors prescribing antidepressants (Wellbutrin and Prozac) that caused adverse reactions in his system making him suicidal. He has been in Collier County Jail for 2 weeks now. Almost 1 wk on suicide watch. Collier police earlier in the day broke into our house saying they were concerned over his safety and tried to baker act him. They would not take him due to the excessive shaking from the medications we were getting out of his system and took him to the hospital instead who released him to me afterwards. Then they show up at 1:30 am to arrest him. It appears Collier County finds using Domestic Violence as a money maker on their end. Gosh knows, the public looses all theirs. My son is a good person whose only crime is hurting himself, NOT OTHERS!
Posted by inncocent f on 02/13/07 01:22 PM
I was falsely accused of D.V. I am suppose to go to trial. I hired a private investigator who found out that she wrote four other similar police reports of four other guys. I have one guy willing to testify about his incident with her. I was told that the State Attorney would rather take the case to trial and have the jury decided then to throw the case out. The reason for this decision I was told so that the Women's Abuse Shelter wont get on his case for not taking me to trial. How can a someone get away with writing five false statements and not get any charges? I am taking this to trial and will not plea out for I did nothing wrong. At the same time I am having my life in the hands of a jury now. What can I do?
Posted by inncocent f on 02/13/07 01:25 PM
I also was put in jail in Collier County for D.V. I was falely accused and the cops and Detectives are being very corrupted. I hired a P.I and was told that she did this to five other guys. The officers names are Dective Smith, Drew Andrew and a Denda. I would like your feed back on this and maybe we can stop the corruptness fo Collier County.
Posted by CBWVC w on 07/20/07 08:57 PM
Hello,
I am married to a wonderful man who has been a victim of false accusations of DV on his ex-wife. He was charged and now a considered a convicted felon. Their was no proof, priors or marks. They accused him strictly off her word. It happened after the OJ trial when they passed the law that DV was now a felony. He was made an example and because of it his life was slowly ruined. He was a successful business man and loving father. She was vindictive and had committed many adultress acts including one that ended up with a child outside of the marriage. When we began to date they had already been seperated for several years. They had a verbal agreement at that point when they would file the divorce due to ties in properties and the DV case, which by the way she went back after the fact to tell them she had made it all up, but the state had already taken over the case. She is now using his tarnished record against him by not letting him see his kids and telling lies to the authority of him threatning her. She told the courts he had abandoned his children and because he is not made out to be a modeled citizen due to his record, they always take her side. She reieved everything in the divorce and is still not happy. The cops have already picked him up on several occasions because she says he has threatened her. They always take her word without investigating it because of his record of DV. They just assume he is guilty.Her actions have caused him to lose his properties and where he was once a successful man, he is now scrapping for pennies. WHERE IS THE JUSTICE? I have watched this women get away with tormenting our lives! What rights do we have? There has to be a law against this type of torment. Is it right that she can at any moment pick up a phone and ruin our lives and our childrens lives just because of a 7 year old false accusation? She has recently done it again and there has to be something we can do about it. It is not good for the children and she does not even consider how her actions have affected the children he had with her. She lies to them and tells them he has abandoned them, but the reality is she will not let him see them even though the courts awarded him visitation. When he calls to pick them up, she threatens him with the authorities. But when he tried to go to the police about it, they told him there was nothing they could do. Her goal is to ruin him at any cost, including her childrens happiness. Does anyone know what we can do or who we can call? Can a lawyer help?
I am married to a wonderful man who has been a victim of false accusations of DV on his ex-wife. He was charged and now a considered a convicted felon. Their was no proof, priors or marks. They accused him strictly off her word. It happened after the OJ trial when they passed the law that DV was now a felony. He was made an example and because of it his life was slowly ruined. He was a successful business man and loving father. She was vindictive and had committed many adultress acts including one that ended up with a child outside of the marriage. When we began to date they had already been seperated for several years. They had a verbal agreement at that point when they would file the divorce due to ties in properties and the DV case, which by the way she went back after the fact to tell them she had made it all up, but the state had already taken over the case. She is now using his tarnished record against him by not letting him see his kids and telling lies to the authority of him threatning her. She told the courts he had abandoned his children and because he is not made out to be a modeled citizen due to his record, they always take her side. She reieved everything in the divorce and is still not happy. The cops have already picked him up on several occasions because she says he has threatened her. They always take her word without investigating it because of his record of DV. They just assume he is guilty.Her actions have caused him to lose his properties and where he was once a successful man, he is now scrapping for pennies. WHERE IS THE JUSTICE? I have watched this women get away with tormenting our lives! What rights do we have? There has to be a law against this type of torment. Is it right that she can at any moment pick up a phone and ruin our lives and our childrens lives just because of a 7 year old false accusation? She has recently done it again and there has to be something we can do about it. It is not good for the children and she does not even consider how her actions have affected the children he had with her. She lies to them and tells them he has abandoned them, but the reality is she will not let him see them even though the courts awarded him visitation. When he calls to pick them up, she threatens him with the authorities. But when he tried to go to the police about it, they told him there was nothing they could do. Her goal is to ruin him at any cost, including her childrens happiness. Does anyone know what we can do or who we can call? Can a lawyer help?
Hello everyone! I sadly understand these problems of being falsely accused. Thank G-d I was a victim of the court in the civil side, still, it makes me deportable.
During the 14 months and 8 scheduled hearings that took for the court to find a "reason" to issue a permanent injunction I was lucky and I was hired by a criminal defense attorney. She is not involved in my case, but this has exposed me to the court and legalities of litigation. Here comes my advise: It is a fight for your rights and freedom. Respect that. Investigate, investigate and investigate. Learn the legal jargon. I dedicate at least five hours a day to learn, their side of the story, Florida Rules of Judicial Conduct (Canons), Florida Rules of Civil Procedure, Family Procedure, Florida Statutes...even Rules of Appeal, which is where I am headed now, knowing before hand that unless I find a "question of great public importance" or I challenge the validity of a statute my appeal will be set aside without response.
Keep your calm. Keep your focus. I have been there. My spaniard ex gave me two wonderful boys who love me greatly. She, as many immigrant "victims", is seeking a green card. Let her try, I have also researched immigration rules. : ) Now, we all need to unite in a calm manner to go to the root of the problem: VAWA. To change legislation locally (state level) is almost impossible because the state is subject to VAWA. No plea for justice. No "please Senator". But the law. VAWA is a fraud. In a few more months I will challenge the whole thing. Going to the root of the problem.
For those who have factual and material evidence of the falsehood there is something you can try: Federal Civil Complaint. Research...it is your life. I don't offer much help for now because I am very busy researching and preparing my appeal, all by myself. But, please, feel free to drop me a line and if I can direct you to some information, I will. No doubt. We are all one under the glorious Constitution of the United States of America. Shoulder to shoulder, first to fix the law, then to eradicate intimate violence.
As a portion of the Marseillaise says: "...liberte, liberte cherie..." The struggle is difficult, the odds are against us, but, given the way the system is set up, we have lost the case before it began!! We have not much more to lose. Let's teach the lawyers and judges that "lay persons" as us take seriously the words at the entrance of the US Supreme Court: "Equal Treatment Under the Law" Good wishes to all. Victory is in your hand, with many set backs, but at the end, we will win.
During the 14 months and 8 scheduled hearings that took for the court to find a "reason" to issue a permanent injunction I was lucky and I was hired by a criminal defense attorney. She is not involved in my case, but this has exposed me to the court and legalities of litigation. Here comes my advise: It is a fight for your rights and freedom. Respect that. Investigate, investigate and investigate. Learn the legal jargon. I dedicate at least five hours a day to learn, their side of the story, Florida Rules of Judicial Conduct (Canons), Florida Rules of Civil Procedure, Family Procedure, Florida Statutes...even Rules of Appeal, which is where I am headed now, knowing before hand that unless I find a "question of great public importance" or I challenge the validity of a statute my appeal will be set aside without response.
Keep your calm. Keep your focus. I have been there. My spaniard ex gave me two wonderful boys who love me greatly. She, as many immigrant "victims", is seeking a green card. Let her try, I have also researched immigration rules. : ) Now, we all need to unite in a calm manner to go to the root of the problem: VAWA. To change legislation locally (state level) is almost impossible because the state is subject to VAWA. No plea for justice. No "please Senator". But the law. VAWA is a fraud. In a few more months I will challenge the whole thing. Going to the root of the problem.
For those who have factual and material evidence of the falsehood there is something you can try: Federal Civil Complaint. Research...it is your life. I don't offer much help for now because I am very busy researching and preparing my appeal, all by myself. But, please, feel free to drop me a line and if I can direct you to some information, I will. No doubt. We are all one under the glorious Constitution of the United States of America. Shoulder to shoulder, first to fix the law, then to eradicate intimate violence.
As a portion of the Marseillaise says: "...liberte, liberte cherie..." The struggle is difficult, the odds are against us, but, given the way the system is set up, we have lost the case before it began!! We have not much more to lose. Let's teach the lawyers and judges that "lay persons" as us take seriously the words at the entrance of the US Supreme Court: "Equal Treatment Under the Law" Good wishes to all. Victory is in your hand, with many set backs, but at the end, we will win.
Posted by patricia w on 10/06/07 07:54 PM
I am a psychotherapist of twenty years and four of those years I worked doing protective services for sexually and physically abused children in Maryland. But ten years ago my own mentally ill son was falsely accused by a child from a horrific family. We have learned, but can't prove, that the police may have coached the girl. The states attorney went after my son with a vengeance saying he looked "wierd". Ken's lawyer said the man seemed to hate my son. And my son's lawyer was about as bad as possible giving us 15 minutes to make a life-altering decision of a plea that I feel great guilt about letting my son take. I wish I knew a lawyer courageous enough to go after this man who never told us it was a felony (even though I asked), never told us it was the same as admitting guilt and being guilty (because in the eyes of the law and community, it is). My son has always professed his innocence to the extent that he was put in prison by a judge who got disgusted by this when my son was in court for being a few days late registering a change of address. (He had changed his address though with the motor vehicles dept. and that is how the police found him and he was only living a mile away from his old address).
My son was a 36 yr. old man with no more than a traffic ticket on his record when the girl accused him ten years ago. I have learned a great deal about this girl since this and it is possible she may recant. But whether she does or doesn't, my son's life is ruined, maybe forever. I think that what may have happened in my son's case is that this child picked a "safe" person, my son to accuse rather than an unsafe one, i.e. one of her three criminal uncles, one of whom was a convicted pedaphile or one of her mother or older sisters johns. I cannot hate this girl. Her life was and still is a hell. But my son in in prison for going to a snowball stand in Baltimore and staying too long. Read Baltimore City Paper 8-9-07 "The Boogieman of Roland Park" if you are interested.
People who don't think the police and attorneys make mistakes and do things wrong in these cases are so wrong. And if anyone you know is ever accused of such a horrific crime, and they are innocent, you will learn, as we did, the hard way. Patricia W
My son was a 36 yr. old man with no more than a traffic ticket on his record when the girl accused him ten years ago. I have learned a great deal about this girl since this and it is possible she may recant. But whether she does or doesn't, my son's life is ruined, maybe forever. I think that what may have happened in my son's case is that this child picked a "safe" person, my son to accuse rather than an unsafe one, i.e. one of her three criminal uncles, one of whom was a convicted pedaphile or one of her mother or older sisters johns. I cannot hate this girl. Her life was and still is a hell. But my son in in prison for going to a snowball stand in Baltimore and staying too long. Read Baltimore City Paper 8-9-07 "The Boogieman of Roland Park" if you are interested.
People who don't think the police and attorneys make mistakes and do things wrong in these cases are so wrong. And if anyone you know is ever accused of such a horrific crime, and they are innocent, you will learn, as we did, the hard way. Patricia W
Posted by joaquin a on 10/06/07 11:10 PM
On August 27, 2007 my wife had me arrested. She falsely accused me of AGGRAVATED ASSAULT WITH A DEADLY WEAPON domestic that she alleged was committed on August 18. The case is still pending in court.
Upon my release two days later, I was told by neighbors and friends that this was all planned as she had previously enquired of them what course would one take if they wanted to proceed to US Citizenship as soon as possible without the involvement of the sponsor. My neighbors discussed domestic violence and the VAWA act with her, thinking she was asking for someone else. A few MONTHS later, the police showed up at my door.
Upon my release two days later, I was told by neighbors and friends that this was all planned as she had previously enquired of them what course would one take if they wanted to proceed to US Citizenship as soon as possible without the involvement of the sponsor. My neighbors discussed domestic violence and the VAWA act with her, thinking she was asking for someone else. A few MONTHS later, the police showed up at my door.
It will be proven in court that her accusations has no merit as I have never at any point, raised a hand to my wife. Secondly I was at church on the date and time she accused me of the violence, I have dozens of witnesses who will testify to my being in church and more who will testify to her questioning them on the path to citizenship through domestic violence acts when I have never ever touched her in that manner. Even the police have accused her of perjuring herself with the inconsistencies in her story. if someone can help me as i have no money for a ATTORNEY
Posted by (no first name) ( on 10/07/07 12:07 PM
I do not know why my son wants to stay with his evil violent wife. SHE USES devious underhanded practices as well. Just like a sidewinder. He has 2 children with her and left her taking his children along with him and then she won them back with her hoodwinking and using the children to pluck at my son's heartstrings. He left her after she had him set up with her kid from another relationship. Her kid from the other relationship has never been allowed to see or visit with me, she is under the care and control of her grandma and stepgranpa. She is 14 and cut her wrists and they put her in a mental facility then she was discharged with no report to Dept of Children. Something was going on with the grandmother and stepgrandpa for her to cut herself. We are in FLA. A few days later my son's wife said I am going to my mom's my daughter is acting up. She left my son with the 2 small children. This was a set-up, shortly after, the stepgrandad and grandma came with the 14 year old beating her and physically threw her through the door and my grandchildren were screaming and placed in danger. The stepgrandfather took off and my son was left with this out of control demon. She was cursing my son and he called the police and he wound up getting arrested for child abuse as he went to control this demon who was slashing at him with her hands. Suddenly his wife came back. Yeah right. Thank God my son had the charges dropped THE BIG ISSUE HERE IS HE CHOOSES TO GO BACK there and is with her with his precious childrten. I AM heartbroken and he will not listen to anyone. I went to so many professionals and the police and no help The professionals said it is up to MY SON. The police are BLIND. I do not know what happened to my son that he is SOOO BLIND she is like a witch she was arrested for child abuse and assault in the past I am trying to get my son and the children out of that evil house that belongs to her stepdad Are theere any men interventions that can help me ?? Some one who can break through to my son? Please help. A heartbroken mom and grandmother I can be reached at 772-343-9364 or Mlakeblui@hotmail.com The police IGNORE ME. My son went to the police about the stepgrandfather and they ignored my son also.
Posted by (no first name) ( on 10/07/07 12:10 PM
I do not know why my son wants to stay with his evil violent wife. SHE USES devious underhanded practices as well. Just like a sidewinder. He has 2 children with her and left her taking his children along with him and then she won them back with her hoodwinking and using the children to pluck at my son's heartstrings. He left her after she had him set up with her kid from another relationship. Her kid from the other relationship has never been allowed to see or visit with me, she is under the care and control of her grandma and stepgranpa. She is 14 and cut her wrists and they put her in a mental facility then she was discharged with no report to Dept of Children. Something was going on with the grandmother and stepgrandpa for her to cut herself. We are in FLA. A few days later my son's wife said I am going to my mom's my daughter is acting up. She left my son with the 2 small children. This was a set-up, shortly after, the stepgrandad and grandma came with the 14 year old beating her and physically threw her through the door and my grandchildren were screaming and placed in danger. The stepgrandfather took off and my son was left with this out of control demon. She was cursing my son and he called the police and he wound up getting arrested for child abuse as he went to control this demon who was slashing at him with her hands. Suddenly his wife came back. Yeah right. Thank God my son had the charges dropped THE BIG ISSUE HERE IS HE CHOOSES TO GO BACK there and is with her with his precious childrten. I AM heartbroken and he will not listen to anyone. I went to so many professionals and the police and no help The professionals said it is up to MY SON. The police are BLIND. I do not know what happened to my son that he is SOOO BLIND she is like a witch she was arrested for child abuse and assault in the past I am trying to get my son and the children out of that evil house that belongs to her stepdad Are theere any men interventions that can help me ?? Some one who can break through to my son? Please help. A heartbroken mom and grandmother I can be reached at 772-343-9364 or Mlakeblui@hotmail.com The police IGNORE ME. My son went to the police about the stepgrandfather and they ignored my son also.
Posted by (no first name) ( on 10/07/07 12:16 PM
I do not know why my son wants to stay with his evil violent wife. SHE USES devious underhanded practices as well. Just like a sidewinder. He has 2 children with her and left her taking his children along with him and then she won them back with her hoodwinking and using the children to pluck at my son's heartstrings. He left her after she had him set up with her kid from another relationship. Her kid from the other relationship has never been allowed to see or visit with me, she is under the care and control of her grandma and stepgranpa. She is 14 and cut her wrists and they put her in a mental facility then she was discharged with no report to Dept of Children. Something was going on with the grandmother and stepgrandpa for her to cut herself. We are in FLA. A few days later my son's wife said I am going to my mom's my daughter is acting up. She left my son with the 2 small children. This was a set-up, shortly after, the stepgrandad and grandma came with the 14 year old beating her and physically threw her through the door and my grandchildren were screaming and placed in danger. The stepgrandfather took off and my son was left with this out of control demon. She was cursing my son and he called the police and he wound up getting arrested for child abuse as he went to control this demon who was slashing at him with her hands. Suddenly his wife came back. Yeah right. Thank God my son had the charges dropped THE BIG ISSUE HERE IS HE CHOOSES TO GO BACK there and is with her with his precious childrten. I AM heartbroken and he will not listen to anyone. The professionals said it is up to MY SON. I do not know what happened to my son that he is SOOO BLIND she is like a witch she was arrested for child abuse and assault in the past I am trying to get my son and the children out of that evil house that belongs to her stepdad Are theere any men interventions that can help me ?? Some one who can break through to my son? Please help. A heartbroken mom and grandmother I can be reached at 772-343-9364 or Mlakeblui@hotmail.com The police IGNORE ME. My son went to the police about the stepgrandfather and they ignored my son also.
Posted by (no first name) ( on 10/07/07 12:19 PM
I do not know why my son wants to stay with his evil violent wife. SHE USES devious underhanded practices as well. Just like a sidewinder. He has 2 children with her and left her taking his children along with him and then she won them back with her hoodwinking and using the children to pluck at my son's heartstrings. He left her after she had him set up with her kid from another relationship. Her kid from the other relationship has never been allowed to see or visit with me, she is under the care and control of her grandma and stepgranpa. She is 14 and cut her wrists and they put her in a mental facility then she was discharged with no report to Dept of Children. Something was going on with the grandmother and stepgrandpa for her to cut herself. We are in FLA. A few days later my son's wife said I am going to my mom's my daughter is acting up. She left my son with the 2 small children. This was a set-up, shortly after, the stepgrandad and grandma came with the 14 year old beating her and physically threw her through the door and my grandchildren were screaming and placed in danger. The stepgrandfather took off and my son was left with this out of control demon. She was cursing my son and he called the police and he wound up getting arrested for child abuse as he went to control this demon who was slashing at him with her hands. Suddenly his wife came back. Yeah right. Thank God my son had the charges dropped THE BIG ISSUE HERE IS HE CHOOSES TO GO BACK there and is with her with his precious childrten. I AM heartbroken and he will not listen to anyone. I went to so many professionals and the police and no help The professionals said it is up to MY SON. The police are BLIND. I do not know what happened to my son that he is SOOO BLIND she is like a witch she was arrested for child abuse and assault in the past I am trying to get my son and the children out of that evil house that belongs to her stepdad Are theere any men interventions that can help me ?? Some one who can break through to my son? Please help. A heartbroken mom and grandmother I can be reached at 772-343-9364 or Mlakeblui@hotmail.com The police IGNORE ME. My son went to the police about the stepgrandfather and they ignored my son also.
Posted by (no first name) ( on 10/07/07 12:20 PM
I do not know why my son wants to stay with his evil violent wife. SHE USES devious underhanded practices as well. Just like a sidewinder. He has 2 children with her and left her taking his children along with him and then she won them back with her hoodwinking and using the children to pluck at my son's heartstrings. He left her after she had him set up with her kid from another relationship. Her kid from the other relationship has never been allowed to see or visit with me, she is under the care and control of her grandma and stepgranpa. She is 14 and cut her wrists and they put her in a mental facility then she was discharged with no report to Dept of Children. Something was going on with the grandmother and stepgrandpa for her to cut herself. We are in FLA. A few days later my son's wife said I am going to my mom's my daughter is acting up. She left my son with the 2 small children. This was a set-up, shortly after, the stepgrandad and grandma came with the 14 year old beating her and physically threw her through the door and my grandchildren were screaming and placed in danger. The stepgrandfather took off and my son was left with this out of control demon. She was cursing my son and he called the police and he wound up getting arrested for child abuse as he went to control this demon who was slashing at him with her hands. Suddenly his wife came back. Yeah right. Thank God my son had the charges dropped THE BIG ISSUE HERE IS HE CHOOSES TO GO BACK there and is with her with his precious childrten. I AM heartbroken and he will not listen to anyone. I went to so many professionals and the police and no help The professionals said it is up to MY SON. The police are BLIND. I do not know what happened to my son that he is SOOO BLIND she is like a witch she was arrested for child abuse and assault in the past I am trying to get my son and the children out of that evil house that belongs to her stepdad Are theere any men interventions that can help me ?? Some one who can break through to my son? Please help. A heartbroken mom and grandmother I can be reached at 772-343-9364 or Mlakeblui@hotmail.com The police IGNORE ME. My son went to the police about the stepgrandfather and they ignored my son also.
Posted by (no first name) ( on 10/07/07 12:22 PM
I do not know why my son wants to stay with his evil violent wife. SHE USES devious underhanded practices as well. Just like a sidewinder. He has 2 children with her and left her taking his children along with him and then she won them back with her hoodwinking and using the children to pluck at my son's heartstrings. He left her after she had him set up with her kid from another relationship. Her kid from the other relationship has never been allowed to see or visit with me, she is under the care and control of her grandma and stepgranpa. She is 14 and cut her wrists and they put her in a mental facility then she was discharged with no report to Dept of Children. Something was going on with the grandmother and stepgrandpa for her to cut herself. We are in FLA. A few days later my son's wife said I am going to my mom's my daughter is acting up. She left my son with the 2 small children. This was a set-up, shortly after, the stepgrandad and grandma came with the 14 year old beating her and physically threw her through the door and my grandchildren were screaming and placed in danger. The stepgrandfather took off and my son was left with this out of control demon. She was cursing my son and he called the police and he wound up getting arrested for child abuse as he went to control this demon who was slashing at him with her hands. Suddenly his wife came back. Yeah right. Thank God my son had the charges dropped THE BIG ISSUE HERE IS HE CHOOSES TO GO BACK there and is with her with his precious childrten. I AM heartbroken and he will not listen to anyone. I went to so many professionals and the police and no help The professionals said it is up to MY SON. The police are BLIND. I do not know what happened to my son that he is SOOO BLIND she is like a witch she was arrested for child abuse and assault in the past I am trying to get my son and the children out of that evil house that belongs to her stepdad Are theere any men interventions that can help me ?? Some one who can break through to my son? Please help. A heartbroken mom and grandmother I can be reached at 772-343-9364 or Mlakeblui@hotmail.com The police IGNORE ME. My son went to the police about the stepgrandfather and they ignored my son also.
Posted by (no first name) ( on 10/07/07 12:23 PM
I do not know why my son wants to stay with his evil violent wife. SHE USES devious underhanded practices as well. Just like a sidewinder. He has 2 children with her and left her taking his children along with him and then she won them back with her hoodwinking and using the children to pluck at my son's heartstrings. He left her after she had him set up with her kid from another relationship. Her kid from the other relationship has never been allowed to see or visit with me, she is under the care and control of her grandma and stepgranpa. She is 14 and cut her wrists and they put her in a mental facility then she was discharged with no report to Dept of Children. Something was going on with the grandmother and stepgrandpa for her to cut herself. We are in FLA. A few days later my son's wife said I am going to my mom's my daughter is acting up. She left my son with the 2 small children. This was a set-up, shortly after, the stepgrandad and grandma came with the 14 year old beating her and physically threw her through the door and my grandchildren were screaming and placed in danger. The stepgrandfather took off and my son was left with this out of control demon. She was cursing my son and he called the police and he wound up getting arrested for child abuse as he went to control this demon who was slashing at him with her hands. Suddenly his wife came back. Yeah right. Thank God my son had the charges dropped THE BIG ISSUE HERE IS HE CHOOSES TO GO BACK there and is with her with his precious childrten. I AM heartbroken and he will not listen to anyone. I went to so many professionals and the police and no help The professionals said it is up to MY SON. The police are BLIND. I do not know what happened to my son that he is SOOO BLIND she is like a witch she was arrested for child abuse and assault in the past I am trying to get my son and the children out of that evil house that belongs to her stepdad Are theere any men interventions that can help me ?? Some one who can break through to my son? Please help. A heartbroken mom and grandmother I can be reached at 772-343-9364 or Mlakeblui@hotmail.com The police IGNORE ME. My son went to the police about the stepgrandfather and they ignored my son also.
Posted by Joseph R on 10/10/07 08:04 PM
Hello, my name is Joseph Ricardo I am 24 and I was recently falsely accused of domestic violence. My girlfriend who is 19 has now stated to members of my family that her brother told her to falsify the police report, but she is too scared to admit this in court. The fact of the matter is she is post par tum and had received the depot shot the previous day that we were arguing and didn't know the seriousness of her writing a false report. I am now a senior in college to become a history teacher and my career is now in jeopardy. It was in fact her brother who called the police due to words exchanged between the both of us. My girlfriend does not want to press charges and in fact wants them dropped so we can get our lives back to normal, but Florida law states that the state attorney can still proceed with the case without a victim. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thank you.
Posted by Seth G on 10/21/07 10:07 PM
To Whom It May Concern,
My name is Seth Garland, I am a loving father of two beautiful daughters. My children mean the world to me and I feel they are being used as leverage in a similar situation. An injunction was put into place about eight months ago by my soon-to-be ex-wife. This injunction was based on false statements and the claim of physical violence on my end, which never happened and never will. I have never in my life had a violent charge and am not a violent person. The injunction came about when my ex called the police on me after I confronted her verbally on staying out all night and not returning phone calls or coming home. It wasn't even a complaint for herself, she called because she thought I was going to hurt myself and they Baker Acted me. She claimed for a long time that the only reason she filed the injunction in the first place was because DCF threatened that if she didn't, they could take our two children away from her.
I tried to be understanding of the situation and even give her the benefit of the doubt. I was under the impression she was looking out for the best interest of my children. After reading the information and paperwork she had to fill out to obtain the injunction, it was clear to me that DCF had little to do with it and she was simply trying to gain control of the situation and use the injunction and my children as a manipulative tool against me.
My divorce is nearing mediation and in light of all the blatant disregard for the restraining order (such as making light of the situation on a public forum, such as the internet..she was caught posting things on people's myspace like "It only takes two judges to approve a restraining order, haha!") I asked for the injunction to be dropped since it was obviously based on falsities and just another way for her to manipulate the law, giving her the upper hand.
Throughout all of this, I have been seeing another girl, whom at one point in time was friends with my ex. My brother passed away about two years ago and my ex-wife started to show her true colors then and completely disregarded my emotional well-being and even went so far as to make fun of me when I was depressed over the whole thing. My current girlfriend was very close with my brother as well and understood what I was going through, so naturally we bonded and became close. Upon seeing the things my wife was doing to me at the time, she made the decision to terminate the friendship with her. This obviously upset my wife to no end and thus ensued the beginning of this messy situation and her vindictive attempt at revenge towards the both of us.
When it was convenient for her, my ex would attempt to make contact with me. She would call me at all hours of the night, e-mail me, text message me, and pretty much stalk me, as she even admitted on several occasions to driving by my house to see if I was home. She was also doing all of this to my girlfriend and they would go at it from time-to-time. I had been trying to steer clear of the girl altogether by staying in another county and would only return to Pinellas County on the days I was scheduled to visit with my daughters.
Time and time again this injunction had been held over my head as a form of blackmail. She would threaten my freedom constantly and send text messages and e-mails to my girlfriend saying she was going to have me arrested and that my girlfriend would miss me a lot. She sent one text in particular that said something along the lines of "Tell him he needs to buy some astroglide, he is going to need it." This form of intimidation and manipulation of the legal system is apalling. Nothing will ever change the fact that I am the father of our children, yet her and her family are trying to no end to remove me from their lives altogether, which saddens me because I care deeply for them and not a second goes by that they are not on my mind.
If you are a father as well, I'm sure you know exactly how I feel. The legal system in Florida doesn't really allow the father to have much of a say in anything regarding the goings on of his children during a divorce.
About two weeks ago, the ex started making harassing phone calls and sending e-mails to both myself and my girlfriend, including nude photos, derogatory statements, and just all-around nonsense. My girlfriend finally got fed up with the situation and made contact with her to let her know she needed to stop. My ex then proceeded to call the police and file a complaint against both of us and also report a violation of injunction, since she was citing third party contact.
I spoke with the detective investigating the claims and let her know I had nothing to do with the communication between my ex and my current girlfriend. My girlfriend then got on the phone with the detective and let her know that she was the one being harassed and she had pages and pages of e-mails and phone records to prove it. Arrangements were made for her to drop these off at the police station, but after speaking with my divorce attorney, he advised us to wait to do that until he could be present, which is what I did.
She failed to bring my girls over for their visitation on the Thursday after she made the complaint. Then Saturday came and my mother (whom all contact is supposed to be made through as far as the children are concerned, per my visitation papers) went to go pick up the girls from my ex's parent's house, where she has been living. Her father answered the door and informed her that "Melissa and the girls are staying at a shelter because of what Seth has been doing." Of course my mother had no idea what he was talking about and informed him I had not been doing anything. She returned home and insisted that we go down to the police station or, at the very least, call them and have them come to my home so we could finally make the complaint against her and give our side of the story and let them know she was in contempt of the court ordered visitation, once again.
As my mother was on hold with the Pinellas County Sheriff's Office, two officers showed up at my home to arrest me for a false police report that was filed by my ex's parents, claiming that I drove by her home earlier that morning. My van had not left my driveway since 11:30 Friday night. The officers would not listen to any of my neighbors, my mother, my girlfriend, my grandmother, nobody..all whom were insisting I had not gone anywhere in my van since the night before. When I told them to pop the hood and feel the engine, they would not. They did not even get a description of the van or myself from the parents, nor did they get a license plate number. All they were arresting me on was their supposed "probable cause", which was a phone call from two of the most biased "witnesses" in the world, my ex's parents. It seems to me that men in this kind of situation don't stand a chance, as the wheels of justice turn ever so slowly, tearing us to shreds and eventually spitting us back out half of what we used to be.
I was charged with felony aggravated stalking and had to spend almost a week in maximum security. I had a 24 hour advisory hearing the morning after I was arrested, at which point the judge set bond at $100,000. My criminal attorney got me on the schedule for a bond reduction hearing that following Friday at 10:00 a.m. My ex actually had the nerve to show up and stand before God, the legal system, and my family and lie to all of them, stating that she was in "fear for her life", and even went so far as to saying that I wish to bring harm upon my children. Keep in mind this is all coming from the same girl that for the past several months has been sending me nude photos of herself, claiming she still loves me at times, making harassing phone calls, asking me to do her favors like work on her brakes (which I did by the way, merely for the safety of my children)..and yet, she is in fear for her life? Needless to say the judge did not reduce bond. Fortunately I was able to put up the $10,000 and equity needed to bond out and I was released the same day as the bond reduction hearing.
Now as for help - I need information or someone out there who understands how this works. I would like to help to get these law changed and see to it that other honest men like myself don't have to go through the same things that I have. It's ashame that, how do you say it, a couple bad apples spoil the whole bunch. There are men out there whom legitimately hurt their significant others and their children and it is because of these men that innocent ones like myself end up paying for it in the long run. Please contact me if there is anybody out there with advice or even anybody out there that would just like to discuss their situation and vent about these types of issues. You can reach me at my e-mail address, which is s43cpo@aol.com.
I am working on getting my own injunction against my ex and plan on filing a civil suit against her family and possibly the Pinellas County Sheriff's Office for false imprisonment, wages lost, emotional and mental distress, and a slew of other things I could list off that would take all night. I also am hoping that when this goes to trial, it will be revealed that her parents did indeed file a fale police report (perjury), and since it resulted in a felony charge, they will in turn be charged with a felony.
Sincerely,
Seth Garland
Posted by Seth G on 10/21/07 10:08 PM
To Whom It May Concern,
My name is Seth Garland, I am a loving father of two beautiful daughters. My children mean the world to me and I feel they are being used as leverage in a similar situation. An injunction was put into place about eight months ago by my soon-to-be ex-wife. This injunction was based on false statements and the claim of physical violence on my end, which never happened and never will. I have never in my life had a violent charge and am not a violent person. The injunction came about when my ex called the police on me after I confronted her verbally on staying out all night and not returning phone calls or coming home. It wasn't even a complaint for herself, she called because she thought I was going to hurt myself and they Baker Acted me. She claimed for a long time that the only reason she filed the injunction in the first place was because DCF threatened that if she didn't, they could take our two children away from her.
I tried to be understanding of the situation and even give her the benefit of the doubt. I was under the impression she was looking out for the best interest of my children. After reading the information and paperwork she had to fill out to obtain the injunction, it was clear to me that DCF had little to do with it and she was simply trying to gain control of the situation and use the injunction and my children as a manipulative tool against me.
My divorce is nearing mediation and in light of all the blatant disregard for the restraining order (such as making light of the situation on a public forum, such as the internet..she was caught posting things on people's myspace like "It only takes two judges to approve a restraining order, haha!") I asked for the injunction to be dropped since it was obviously based on falsities and just another way for her to manipulate the law, giving her the upper hand.
Throughout all of this, I have been seeing another girl, whom at one point in time was friends with my ex. My brother passed away about two years ago and my ex-wife started to show her true colors then and completely disregarded my emotional well-being and even went so far as to make fun of me when I was depressed over the whole thing. My current girlfriend was very close with my brother as well and understood what I was going through, so naturally we bonded and became close. Upon seeing the things my wife was doing to me at the time, she made the decision to terminate the friendship with her. This obviously upset my wife to no end and thus ensued the beginning of this messy situation and her vindictive attempt at revenge towards the both of us.
When it was convenient for her, my ex would attempt to make contact with me. She would call me at all hours of the night, e-mail me, text message me, and pretty much stalk me, as she even admitted on several occasions to driving by my house to see if I was home. She was also doing all of this to my girlfriend and they would go at it from time-to-time. I had been trying to steer clear of the girl altogether by staying in another county and would only return to Pinellas County on the days I was scheduled to visit with my daughters.
Time and time again this injunction had been held over my head as a form of blackmail. She would threaten my freedom constantly and send text messages and e-mails to my girlfriend saying she was going to have me arrested and that my girlfriend would miss me a lot. She sent one text in particular that said something along the lines of "Tell him he needs to buy some astroglide, he is going to need it." This form of intimidation and manipulation of the legal system is apalling. Nothing will ever change the fact that I am the father of our children, yet her and her family are trying to no end to remove me from their lives altogether, which saddens me because I care deeply for them and not a second goes by that they are not on my mind.
If you are a father as well, I'm sure you know exactly how I feel. The legal system in Florida doesn't really allow the father to have much of a say in anything regarding the goings on of his children during a divorce.
About two weeks ago, the ex started making harassing phone calls and sending e-mails to both myself and my girlfriend, including nude photos, derogatory statements, and just all-around nonsense. My girlfriend finally got fed up with the situation and made contact with her to let her know she needed to stop. My ex then proceeded to call the police and file a complaint against both of us and also report a violation of injunction, since she was citing third party contact.
I spoke with the detective investigating the claims and let her know I had nothing to do with the communication between my ex and my current girlfriend. My girlfriend then got on the phone with the detective and let her know that she was the one being harassed and she had pages and pages of e-mails and phone records to prove it. Arrangements were made for her to drop these off at the police station, but after speaking with my divorce attorney, he advised us to wait to do that until he could be present, which is what I did.
She failed to bring my girls over for their visitation on the Thursday after she made the complaint. Then Saturday came and my mother (whom all contact is supposed to be made through as far as the children are concerned, per my visitation papers) went to go pick up the girls from my ex's parent's house, where she has been living. Her father answered the door and informed her that "Melissa and the girls are staying at a shelter because of what Seth has been doing." Of course my mother had no idea what he was talking about and informed him I had not been doing anything. She returned home and insisted that we go down to the police station or, at the very least, call them and have them come to my home so we could finally make the complaint against her and give our side of the story and let them know she was in contempt of the court ordered visitation, once again.
As my mother was on hold with the Pinellas County Sheriff's Office, two officers showed up at my home to arrest me for a false police report that was filed by my ex's parents, claiming that I drove by her home earlier that morning. My van had not left my driveway since 11:30 Friday night. The officers would not listen to any of my neighbors, my mother, my girlfriend, my grandmother, nobody..all whom were insisting I had not gone anywhere in my van since the night before. When I told them to pop the hood and feel the engine, they would not. They did not even get a description of the van or myself from the parents, nor did they get a license plate number. All they were arresting me on was their supposed "probable cause", which was a phone call from two of the most biased "witnesses" in the world, my ex's parents. It seems to me that men in this kind of situation don't stand a chance, as the wheels of justice turn ever so slowly, tearing us to shreds and eventually spitting us back out half of what we used to be.
I was charged with felony aggravated stalking and had to spend almost a week in maximum security. I had a 24 hour advisory hearing the morning after I was arrested, at which point the judge set bond at $100,000. My criminal attorney got me on the schedule for a bond reduction hearing that following Friday at 10:00 a.m. My ex actually had the nerve to show up and stand before God, the legal system, and my family and lie to all of them, stating that she was in "fear for her life", and even went so far as to saying that I wish to bring harm upon my children. Keep in mind this is all coming from the same girl that for the past several months has been sending me nude photos of herself, claiming she still loves me at times, making harassing phone calls, asking me to do her favors like work on her brakes (which I did by the way, merely for the safety of my children)..and yet, she is in fear for her life? Needless to say the judge did not reduce bond. Fortunately I was able to put up the $10,000 and equity needed to bond out and I was released the same day as the bond reduction hearing.
Now as for help - I need information or someone out there who understands how this works. I would like to help to get these law changed and see to it that other honest men like myself don't have to go through the same things that I have. It's ashame that, how do you say it, a couple bad apples spoil the whole bunch. There are men out there whom legitimately hurt their significant others and their children and it is because of these men that innocent ones like myself end up paying for it in the long run. Please contact me if there is anybody out there with advice or even anybody out there that would just like to discuss their situation and vent about these types of issues. You can reach me at my e-mail address, which is s43cpo@aol.com.
I am working on getting my own injunction against my ex and plan on filing a civil suit against her family and possibly the Pinellas County Sheriff's Office for false imprisonment, wages lost, emotional and mental distress, and a slew of other things I could list off that would take all night. I also am hoping that when this goes to trial, it will be revealed that her parents did indeed file a fale police report (perjury), and since it resulted in a felony charge, they will in turn be charged with a felony.
Sincerely,
Seth Garland
To Whom It May Concern,
My name is Seth Garland, I am a loving father of two beautiful daughters. My children mean the world to me and I feel they are being used as leverage in a similar situation. An injunction was put into place about eight months ago by my soon-to-be ex-wife. This injunction was based on false statements and the claim of physical violence on my end, which never happened and never will. I have never in my life had a violent charge and am not a violent person. The injunction came about when my ex called the police on me after I confronted her verbally on staying out all night and not returning phone calls or coming home. It wasn't even a complaint for herself, she called because she thought I was going to hurt myself and they Baker Acted me. She claimed for a long time that the only reason she filed the injunction in the first place was because DCF threatened that if she didn't, they could take our two children away from her.
I tried to be understanding of the situation and even give her the benefit of the doubt. I was under the impression she was looking out for the best interest of my children. After reading the information and paperwork she had to fill out to obtain the injunction, it was clear to me that DCF had little to do with it and she was simply trying to gain control of the situation and use the injunction and my children as a manipulative tool against me.
My divorce is nearing mediation and in light of all the blatant disregard for the restraining order (such as making light of the situation on a public forum, such as the internet..she was caught posting things on people's myspace like "It only takes two judges to approve a restraining order, haha!") I asked for the injunction to be dropped since it was obviously based on falsities and just another way for her to manipulate the law, giving her the upper hand.
Throughout all of this, I have been seeing another girl, whom at one point in time was friends with my ex. My brother passed away about two years ago and my ex-wife started to show her true colors then and completely disregarded my emotional well-being and even went so far as to make fun of me when I was depressed over the whole thing. My current girlfriend was very close with my brother as well and understood what I was going through, so naturally we bonded and became close. Upon seeing the things my wife was doing to me at the time, she made the decision to terminate the friendship with her. This obviously upset my wife to no end and thus ensued the beginning of this messy situation and her vindictive attempt at revenge towards the both of us.
When it was convenient for her, my ex would attempt to make contact with me. She would call me at all hours of the night, e-mail me, text message me, and pretty much stalk me, as she even admitted on several occasions to driving by my house to see if I was home. She was also doing all of this to my girlfriend and they would go at it from time-to-time. I had been trying to steer clear of the girl altogether by staying in another county and would only return to Pinellas County on the days I was scheduled to visit with my daughters.
Time and time again this injunction had been held over my head as a form of blackmail. She would threaten my freedom constantly and send text messages and e-mails to my girlfriend saying she was going to have me arrested and that my girlfriend would miss me a lot. She sent one text in particular that said something along the lines of "Tell him he needs to buy some astroglide, he is going to need it." This form of intimidation and manipulation of the legal system is apalling. Nothing will ever change the fact that I am the father of our children, yet her and her family are trying to no end to remove me from their lives altogether, which saddens me because I care deeply for them and not a second goes by that they are not on my mind.
If you are a father as well, I'm sure you know exactly how I feel. The legal system in Florida doesn't really allow the father to have much of a say in anything regarding the goings on of his children during a divorce.
About two weeks ago, the ex started making harassing phone calls and sending e-mails to both myself and my girlfriend, including nude photos, derogatory statements, and just all-around nonsense. My girlfriend finally got fed up with the situation and made contact with her to let her know she needed to stop. My ex then proceeded to call the police and file a complaint against both of us and also report a violation of injunction, since she was citing third party contact.
I spoke with the detective investigating the claims and let her know I had nothing to do with the communication between my ex and my current girlfriend. My girlfriend then got on the phone with the detective and let her know that she was the one being harassed and she had pages and pages of e-mails and phone records to prove it. Arrangements were made for her to drop these off at the police station, but after speaking with my divorce attorney, he advised us to wait to do that until he could be present, which is what I did.
She failed to bring my girls over for their visitation on the Thursday after she made the complaint. Then Saturday came and my mother (whom all contact is supposed to be made through as far as the children are concerned, per my visitation papers) went to go pick up the girls from my ex's parent's house, where she has been living. Her father answered the door and informed her that "Melissa and the girls are staying at a shelter because of what Seth has been doing." Of course my mother had no idea what he was talking about and informed him I had not been doing anything. She returned home and insisted that we go down to the police station or, at the very least, call them and have them come to my home so we could finally make the complaint against her and give our side of the story and let them know she was in contempt of the court ordered visitation, once again.
As my mother was on hold with the Pinellas County Sheriff's Office, two officers showed up at my home to arrest me for a false police report that was filed by my ex's parents, claiming that I drove by her home earlier that morning. My van had not left my driveway since 11:30 Friday night. The officers would not listen to any of my neighbors, my mother, my girlfriend, my grandmother, nobody..all whom were insisting I had not gone anywhere in my van since the night before. When I told them to pop the hood and feel the engine, they would not. They did not even get a description of the van or myself from the parents, nor did they get a license plate number. All they were arresting me on was their supposed "probable cause", which was a phone call from two of the most biased "witnesses" in the world, my ex's parents. It seems to me that men in this kind of situation don't stand a chance, as the wheels of justice turn ever so slowly, tearing us to shreds and eventually spitting us back out half of what we used to be.
I was charged with felony aggravated stalking and had to spend almost a week in maximum security. I had a 24 hour advisory hearing the morning after I was arrested, at which point the judge set bond at $100,000. My criminal attorney got me on the schedule for a bond reduction hearing that following Friday at 10:00 a.m. My ex actually had the nerve to show up and stand before God, the legal system, and my family and lie to all of them, stating that she was in "fear for her life", and even went so far as to saying that I wish to bring harm upon my children. Keep in mind this is all coming from the same girl that for the past several months has been sending me nude photos of herself, claiming she still loves me at times, making harassing phone calls, asking me to do her favors like work on her brakes (which I did by the way, merely for the safety of my children)..and yet, she is in fear for her life? Needless to say the judge did not reduce bond. Fortunately I was able to put up the $10,000 and equity needed to bond out and I was released the same day as the bond reduction hearing.
Now as for help - I need information or someone out there who understands how this works. I would like to help to get these law changed and see to it that other honest men like myself don't have to go through the same things that I have. It's ashame that, how do you say it, a couple bad apples spoil the whole bunch. There are men out there whom legitimately hurt their significant others and their children and it is because of these men that innocent ones like myself end up paying for it in the long run. Please contact me if there is anybody out there with advice or even anybody out there that would just like to discuss their situation and vent about these types of issues. You can reach me at my e-mail address, which is s43cpo@aol.com.
I am working on getting my own injunction against my ex and plan on filing a civil suit against her family and possibly the Pinellas County Sheriff's Office for false imprisonment, wages lost, emotional and mental distress, and a slew of other things I could list off that would take all night. I also am hoping that when this goes to trial, it will be revealed that her parents did indeed file a fale police report (perjury), and since it resulted in a felony charge, they will in turn be charged with a felony.
Sincerely,
Seth Garland
Posted by Seth G on 10/21/07 10:09 PM
To Whom It May Concern,
My name is Seth Garland, I am a loving father of two beautiful daughters. My children mean the world to me and I feel they are being used as leverage in a similar situation. An injunction was put into place about eight months ago by my soon-to-be ex-wife. This injunction was based on false statements and the claim of physical violence on my end, which never happened and never will. I have never in my life had a violent charge and am not a violent person. The injunction came about when my ex called the police on me after I confronted her verbally on staying out all night and not returning phone calls or coming home. It wasn't even a complaint for herself, she called because she thought I was going to hurt myself and they Baker Acted me. She claimed for a long time that the only reason she filed the injunction in the first place was because DCF threatened that if she didn't, they could take our two children away from her.
I tried to be understanding of the situation and even give her the benefit of the doubt. I was under the impression she was looking out for the best interest of my children. After reading the information and paperwork she had to fill out to obtain the injunction, it was clear to me that DCF had little to do with it and she was simply trying to gain control of the situation and use the injunction and my children as a manipulative tool against me.
My divorce is nearing mediation and in light of all the blatant disregard for the restraining order (such as making light of the situation on a public forum, such as the internet..she was caught posting things on people's myspace like "It only takes two judges to approve a restraining order, haha!") I asked for the injunction to be dropped since it was obviously based on falsities and just another way for her to manipulate the law, giving her the upper hand.
Throughout all of this, I have been seeing another girl, whom at one point in time was friends with my ex. My brother passed away about two years ago and my ex-wife started to show her true colors then and completely disregarded my emotional well-being and even went so far as to make fun of me when I was depressed over the whole thing. My current girlfriend was very close with my brother as well and understood what I was going through, so naturally we bonded and became close. Upon seeing the things my wife was doing to me at the time, she made the decision to terminate the friendship with her. This obviously upset my wife to no end and thus ensued the beginning of this messy situation and her vindictive attempt at revenge towards the both of us.
When it was convenient for her, my ex would attempt to make contact with me. She would call me at all hours of the night, e-mail me, text message me, and pretty much stalk me, as she even admitted on several occasions to driving by my house to see if I was home. She was also doing all of this to my girlfriend and they would go at it from time-to-time. I had been trying to steer clear of the girl altogether by staying in another county and would only return to Pinellas County on the days I was scheduled to visit with my daughters.
Time and time again this injunction had been held over my head as a form of blackmail. She would threaten my freedom constantly and send text messages and e-mails to my girlfriend saying she was going to have me arrested and that my girlfriend would miss me a lot. She sent one text in particular that said something along the lines of "Tell him he needs to buy some astroglide, he is going to need it." This form of intimidation and manipulation of the legal system is apalling. Nothing will ever change the fact that I am the father of our children, yet her and her family are trying to no end to remove me from their lives altogether, which saddens me because I care deeply for them and not a second goes by that they are not on my mind.
If you are a father as well, I'm sure you know exactly how I feel. The legal system in Florida doesn't really allow the father to have much of a say in anything regarding the goings on of his children during a divorce.
About two weeks ago, the ex started making harassing phone calls and sending e-mails to both myself and my girlfriend, including nude photos, derogatory statements, and just all-around nonsense. My girlfriend finally got fed up with the situation and made contact with her to let her know she needed to stop. My ex then proceeded to call the police and file a complaint against both of us and also report a violation of injunction, since she was citing third party contact.
I spoke with the detective investigating the claims and let her know I had nothing to do with the communication between my ex and my current girlfriend. My girlfriend then got on the phone with the detective and let her know that she was the one being harassed and she had pages and pages of e-mails and phone records to prove it. Arrangements were made for her to drop these off at the police station, but after speaking with my divorce attorney, he advised us to wait to do that until he could be present, which is what I did.
She failed to bring my girls over for their visitation on the Thursday after she made the complaint. Then Saturday came and my mother (whom all contact is supposed to be made through as far as the children are concerned, per my visitation papers) went to go pick up the girls from my ex's parent's house, where she has been living. Her father answered the door and informed her that "Melissa and the girls are staying at a shelter because of what Seth has been doing." Of course my mother had no idea what he was talking about and informed him I had not been doing anything. She returned home and insisted that we go down to the police station or, at the very least, call them and have them come to my home so we could finally make the complaint against her and give our side of the story and let them know she was in contempt of the court ordered visitation, once again.
As my mother was on hold with the Pinellas County Sheriff's Office, two officers showed up at my home to arrest me for a false police report that was filed by my ex's parents, claiming that I drove by her home earlier that morning. My van had not left my driveway since 11:30 Friday night. The officers would not listen to any of my neighbors, my mother, my girlfriend, my grandmother, nobody..all whom were insisting I had not gone anywhere in my van since the night before. When I told them to pop the hood and feel the engine, they would not. They did not even get a description of the van or myself from the parents, nor did they get a license plate number. All they were arresting me on was their supposed "probable cause", which was a phone call from two of the most biased "witnesses" in the world, my ex's parents. It seems to me that men in this kind of situation don't stand a chance, as the wheels of justice turn ever so slowly, tearing us to shreds and eventually spitting us back out half of what we used to be.
I was charged with felony aggravated stalking and had to spend almost a week in maximum security. I had a 24 hour advisory hearing the morning after I was arrested, at which point the judge set bond at $100,000. My criminal attorney got me on the schedule for a bond reduction hearing that following Friday at 10:00 a.m. My ex actually had the nerve to show up and stand before God, the legal system, and my family and lie to all of them, stating that she was in "fear for her life", and even went so far as to saying that I wish to bring harm upon my children. Keep in mind this is all coming from the same girl that for the past several months has been sending me nude photos of herself, claiming she still loves me at times, making harassing phone calls, asking me to do her favors like work on her brakes (which I did by the way, merely for the safety of my children)..and yet, she is in fear for her life? Needless to say the judge did not reduce bond. Fortunately I was able to put up the $10,000 and equity needed to bond out and I was released the same day as the bond reduction hearing.
Now as for help - I need information or someone out there who understands how this works. I would like to help to get these law changed and see to it that other honest men like myself don't have to go through the same things that I have. It's ashame that, how do you say it, a couple bad apples spoil the whole bunch. There are men out there whom legitimately hurt their significant others and their children and it is because of these men that innocent ones like myself end up paying for it in the long run. Please contact me if there is anybody out there with advice or even anybody out there that would just like to discuss their situation and vent about these types of issues. You can reach me at my e-mail address, which is s43cpo@aol.com.
I am working on getting my own injunction against my ex and plan on filing a civil suit against her family and possibly the Pinellas County Sheriff's Office for false imprisonment, wages lost, emotional and mental distress, and a slew of other things I could list off that would take all night. I also am hoping that when this goes to trial, it will be revealed that her parents did indeed file a fale police report (perjury), and since it resulted in a felony charge, they will in turn be charged with a felony.
Sincerely,
Seth Garland
Posted by Seth G on 10/21/07 10:09 PM
To Whom It May Concern,
My name is Seth Garland, I am a loving father of two beautiful daughters. My children mean the world to me and I feel they are being used as leverage in a similar situation. An injunction was put into place about eight months ago by my soon-to-be ex-wife. This injunction was based on false statements and the claim of physical violence on my end, which never happened and never will. I have never in my life had a violent charge and am not a violent person. The injunction came about when my ex called the police on me after I confronted her verbally on staying out all night and not returning phone calls or coming home. It wasn't even a complaint for herself, she called because she thought I was going to hurt myself and they Baker Acted me. She claimed for a long time that the only reason she filed the injunction in the first place was because DCF threatened that if she didn't, they could take our two children away from her.
I tried to be understanding of the situation and even give her the benefit of the doubt. I was under the impression she was looking out for the best interest of my children. After reading the information and paperwork she had to fill out to obtain the injunction, it was clear to me that DCF had little to do with it and she was simply trying to gain control of the situation and use the injunction and my children as a manipulative tool against me.
My divorce is nearing mediation and in light of all the blatant disregard for the restraining order (such as making light of the situation on a public forum, such as the internet..she was caught posting things on people's myspace like "It only takes two judges to approve a restraining order, haha!") I asked for the injunction to be dropped since it was obviously based on falsities and just another way for her to manipulate the law, giving her the upper hand.
Throughout all of this, I have been seeing another girl, whom at one point in time was friends with my ex. My brother passed away about two years ago and my ex-wife started to show her true colors then and completely disregarded my emotional well-being and even went so far as to make fun of me when I was depressed over the whole thing. My current girlfriend was very close with my brother as well and understood what I was going through, so naturally we bonded and became close. Upon seeing the things my wife was doing to me at the time, she made the decision to terminate the friendship with her. This obviously upset my wife to no end and thus ensued the beginning of this messy situation and her vindictive attempt at revenge towards the both of us.
When it was convenient for her, my ex would attempt to make contact with me. She would call me at all hours of the night, e-mail me, text message me, and pretty much stalk me, as she even admitted on several occasions to driving by my house to see if I was home. She was also doing all of this to my girlfriend and they would go at it from time-to-time. I had been trying to steer clear of the girl altogether by staying in another county and would only return to Pinellas County on the days I was scheduled to visit with my daughters.
Time and time again this injunction had been held over my head as a form of blackmail. She would threaten my freedom constantly and send text messages and e-mails to my girlfriend saying she was going to have me arrested and that my girlfriend would miss me a lot. She sent one text in particular that said something along the lines of "Tell him he needs to buy some astroglide, he is going to need it." This form of intimidation and manipulation of the legal system is apalling. Nothing will ever change the fact that I am the father of our children, yet her and her family are trying to no end to remove me from their lives altogether, which saddens me because I care deeply for them and not a second goes by that they are not on my mind.
If you are a father as well, I'm sure you know exactly how I feel. The legal system in Florida doesn't really allow the father to have much of a say in anything regarding the goings on of his children during a divorce.
About two weeks ago, the ex started making harassing phone calls and sending e-mails to both myself and my girlfriend, including nude photos, derogatory statements, and just all-around nonsense. My girlfriend finally got fed up with the situation and made contact with her to let her know she needed to stop. My ex then proceeded to call the police and file a complaint against both of us and also report a violation of injunction, since she was citing third party contact.
I spoke with the detective investigating the claims and let her know I had nothing to do with the communication between my ex and my current girlfriend. My girlfriend then got on the phone with the detective and let her know that she was the one being harassed and she had pages and pages of e-mails and phone records to prove it. Arrangements were made for her to drop these off at the police station, but after speaking with my divorce attorney, he advised us to wait to do that until he could be present, which is what I did.
She failed to bring my girls over for their visitation on the Thursday after she made the complaint. Then Saturday came and my mother (whom all contact is supposed to be made through as far as the children are concerned, per my visitation papers) went to go pick up the girls from my ex's parent's house, where she has been living. Her father answered the door and informed her that "Melissa and the girls are staying at a shelter because of what Seth has been doing." Of course my mother had no idea what he was talking about and informed him I had not been doing anything. She returned home and insisted that we go down to the police station or, at the very least, call them and have them come to my home so we could finally make the complaint against her and give our side of the story and let them know she was in contempt of the court ordered visitation, once again.
As my mother was on hold with the Pinellas County Sheriff's Office, two officers showed up at my home to arrest me for a false police report that was filed by my ex's parents, claiming that I drove by her home earlier that morning. My van had not left my driveway since 11:30 Friday night. The officers would not listen to any of my neighbors, my mother, my girlfriend, my grandmother, nobody..all whom were insisting I had not gone anywhere in my van since the night before. When I told them to pop the hood and feel the engine, they would not. They did not even get a description of the van or myself from the parents, nor did they get a license plate number. All they were arresting me on was their supposed "probable cause", which was a phone call from two of the most biased "witnesses" in the world, my ex's parents. It seems to me that men in this kind of situation don't stand a chance, as the wheels of justice turn ever so slowly, tearing us to shreds and eventually spitting us back out half of what we used to be.
I was charged with felony aggravated stalking and had to spend almost a week in maximum security. I had a 24 hour advisory hearing the morning after I was arrested, at which point the judge set bond at $100,000. My criminal attorney got me on the schedule for a bond reduction hearing that following Friday at 10:00 a.m. My ex actually had the nerve to show up and stand before God, the legal system, and my family and lie to all of them, stating that she was in "fear for her life", and even went so far as to saying that I wish to bring harm upon my children. Keep in mind this is all coming from the same girl that for the past several months has been sending me nude photos of herself, claiming she still loves me at times, making harassing phone calls, asking me to do her favors like work on her brakes (which I did by the way, merely for the safety of my children)..and yet, she is in fear for her life? Needless to say the judge did not reduce bond. Fortunately I was able to put up the $10,000 and equity needed to bond out and I was released the same day as the bond reduction hearing.
Now as for help - I need information or someone out there who understands how this works. I would like to help to get these law changed and see to it that other honest men like myself don't have to go through the same things that I have. It's ashame that, how do you say it, a couple bad apples spoil the whole bunch. There are men out there whom legitimately hurt their significant others and their children and it is because of these men that innocent ones like myself end up paying for it in the long run. Please contact me if there is anybody out there with advice or even anybody out there that would just like to discuss their situation and vent about these types of issues. You can reach me at my e-mail address, which is s43cpo@aol.com.
I am working on getting my own injunction against my ex and plan on filing a civil suit against her family and possibly the Pinellas County Sheriff's Office for false imprisonment, wages lost, emotional and mental distress, and a slew of other things I could list off that would take all night. I also am hoping that when this goes to trial, it will be revealed that her parents did indeed file a fale police report (perjury), and since it resulted in a felony charge, they will in turn be charged with a felony.
Sincerely,
Seth Garland
Posted by Seth G on 10/21/07 10:11 PM
To Whom It May Concern,
My name is Seth Garland, I am a loving father of two beautiful daughters. My children mean the world to me and I feel they are being used as leverage in a similar situation. An injunction was put into place about eight months ago by my soon-to-be ex-wife. This injunction was based on false statements and the claim of physical violence on my end, which never happened and never will. I have never in my life had a violent charge and am not a violent person. The injunction came about when my ex called the police on me after I confronted her verbally on staying out all night and not returning phone calls or coming home. It wasn't even a complaint for herself, she called because she thought I was going to hurt myself and they Baker Acted me. She claimed for a long time that the only reason she filed the injunction in the first place was because DCF threatened that if she didn't, they could take our two children away from her.
I tried to be understanding of the situation and even give her the benefit of the doubt. I was under the impression she was looking out for the best interest of my children. After reading the information and paperwork she had to fill out to obtain the injunction, it was clear to me that DCF had little to do with it and she was simply trying to gain control of the situation and use the injunction and my children as a manipulative tool against me.
My divorce is nearing mediation and in light of all the blatant disregard for the restraining order (such as making light of the situation on a public forum, such as the internet..she was caught posting things on people's myspace like "It only takes two judges to approve a restraining order, haha!") I asked for the injunction to be dropped since it was obviously based on falsities and just another way for her to manipulate the law, giving her the upper hand.
Throughout all of this, I have been seeing another girl, whom at one point in time was friends with my ex. My brother passed away about two years ago and my ex-wife started to show her true colors then and completely disregarded my emotional well-being and even went so far as to make fun of me when I was depressed over the whole thing. My current girlfriend was very close with my brother as well and understood what I was going through, so naturally we bonded and became close. Upon seeing the things my wife was doing to me at the time, she made the decision to terminate the friendship with her. This obviously upset my wife to no end and thus ensued the beginning of this messy situation and her vindictive attempt at revenge towards the both of us.
When it was convenient for her, my ex would attempt to make contact with me. She would call me at all hours of the night, e-mail me, text message me, and pretty much stalk me, as she even admitted on several occasions to driving by my house to see if I was home. She was also doing all of this to my girlfriend and they would go at it from time-to-time. I had been trying to steer clear of the girl altogether by staying in another county and would only return to Pinellas County on the days I was scheduled to visit with my daughters.
Time and time again this injunction had been held over my head as a form of blackmail. She would threaten my freedom constantly and send text messages and e-mails to my girlfriend saying she was going to have me arrested and that my girlfriend would miss me a lot. She sent one text in particular that said something along the lines of "Tell him he needs to buy some astroglide, he is going to need it." This form of intimidation and manipulation of the legal system is apalling. Nothing will ever change the fact that I am the father of our children, yet her and her family are trying to no end to remove me from their lives altogether, which saddens me because I care deeply for them and not a second goes by that they are not on my mind.
If you are a father as well, I'm sure you know exactly how I feel. The legal system in Florida doesn't really allow the father to have much of a say in anything regarding the goings on of his children during a divorce.
About two weeks ago, the ex started making harassing phone calls and sending e-mails to both myself and my girlfriend, including nude photos, derogatory statements, and just all-around nonsense. My girlfriend finally got fed up with the situation and made contact with her to let her know she needed to stop. My ex then proceeded to call the police and file a complaint against both of us and also report a violation of injunction, since she was citing third party contact.
I spoke with the detective investigating the claims and let her know I had nothing to do with the communication between my ex and my current girlfriend. My girlfriend then got on the phone with the detective and let her know that she was the one being harassed and she had pages and pages of e-mails and phone records to prove it. Arrangements were made for her to drop these off at the police station, but after speaking with my divorce attorney, he advised us to wait to do that until he could be present, which is what I did.
She failed to bring my girls over for their visitation on the Thursday after she made the complaint. Then Saturday came and my mother (whom all contact is supposed to be made through as far as the children are concerned, per my visitation papers) went to go pick up the girls from my ex's parent's house, where she has been living. Her father answered the door and informed her that "Melissa and the girls are staying at a shelter because of what Seth has been doing." Of course my mother had no idea what he was talking about and informed him I had not been doing anything. She returned home and insisted that we go down to the police station or, at the very least, call them and have them come to my home so we could finally make the complaint against her and give our side of the story and let them know she was in contempt of the court ordered visitation, once again.
As my mother was on hold with the Pinellas County Sheriff's Office, two officers showed up at my home to arrest me for a false police report that was filed by my ex's parents, claiming that I drove by her home earlier that morning. My van had not left my driveway since 11:30 Friday night. The officers would not listen to any of my neighbors, my mother, my girlfriend, my grandmother, nobody..all whom were insisting I had not gone anywhere in my van since the night before. When I told them to pop the hood and feel the engine, they would not. They did not even get a description of the van or myself from the parents, nor did they get a license plate number. All they were arresting me on was their supposed "probable cause", which was a phone call from two of the most biased "witnesses" in the world, my ex's parents. It seems to me that men in this kind of situation don't stand a chance, as the wheels of justice turn ever so slowly, tearing us to shreds and eventually spitting us back out half of what we used to be.
I was charged with felony aggravated stalking and had to spend almost a week in maximum security. I had a 24 hour advisory hearing the morning after I was arrested, at which point the judge set bond at $100,000. My criminal attorney got me on the schedule for a bond reduction hearing that following Friday at 10:00 a.m. My ex actually had the nerve to show up and stand before God, the legal system, and my family and lie to all of them, stating that she was in "fear for her life", and even went so far as to saying that I wish to bring harm upon my children. Keep in mind this is all coming from the same girl that for the past several months has been sending me nude photos of herself, claiming she still loves me at times, making harassing phone calls, asking me to do her favors like work on her brakes (which I did by the way, merely for the safety of my children)..and yet, she is in fear for her life? Needless to say the judge did not reduce bond. Fortunately I was able to put up the $10,000 and equity needed to bond out and I was released the same day as the bond reduction hearing.
Now as for help - I need information or someone out there who understands how this works. I would like to help to get these law changed and see to it that other honest men like myself don't have to go through the same things that I have. It's ashame that, how do you say it, a couple bad apples spoil the whole bunch. There are men out there whom legitimately hurt their significant others and their children and it is because of these men that innocent ones like myself end up paying for it in the long run. Please contact me if there is anybody out there with advice or even anybody out there that would just like to discuss their situation and vent about these types of issues. You can reach me at my e-mail address, which is s43cpo@aol.com.
I am working on getting my own injunction against my ex and plan on filing a civil suit against her family and possibly the Pinellas County Sheriff's Office for false imprisonment, wages lost, emotional and mental distress, and a slew of other things I could list off that would take all night. I also am hoping that when this goes to trial, it will be revealed that her parents did indeed file a fale police report (perjury), and since it resulted in a felony charge, they will in turn be charged with a felony.
Sincerely,
Seth Garland
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Posted by Seth G on 10/22/07 12:49 AM
28yr soon to be divorced the Names Seth if you get a my blog let me know what you think
Posted by Enrique S on 12/13/07 10:29 PM
Seth,
Check miami-dadeclerk.com
See civil/family/probate on the left column.
Standard case search.
local case number
then, for a symphony of denials from the court:
2006 5773 fc 04
Look at the last entry.
Motion to declare Sec. 741.30 F. S. Unconstitutional.
No more remedy but to try to close the civil courts in Florida.
Then I only hope my ex tries to drag me thru the criminal dv for me to challenge that one too.
Education, perseverance. Any one interested in reading the "teaser" motion, let me know.
Fight through the court, Seth. The courts could be itching to review certain statutes, but we have to ask them.
I've just been through the court system here in Florida on a false charge that I pushed my wife onto a bed. We had only a verbal argument and she decided the next day to go to the police and lie about the me pushing her. No police were ever called and nobody investigated.
Every man should understand that you have absolutely no rights when you are accused of such things. Any woman can say anything and the State will simply take her at her word; you are guilty and WILL be thrown in jail and prosecuted. Even after she told the prosecuter that I did not push her, I had a phone conversation recorded with her admitting that I did not push her, and her mother who witnessed the verbal argument was willing to testify that no pushing ever took place, the prosecutor still refused to drop the case. I lost over $40,000 dollars, had to take a plea so that my professional career would not be ruined with a domestic violence charge on my record, and now, even though my wife wants to reconcile and rebuild our family, I cannot due to the fear that she could simply get mad at anything and one day do it again to me and ruin my life with one statement. Thank you Florida for taking my rights away and destroying a family and leaving my son with a father he can only see ever other weekend. Well done!
I've just been through the court system here in Florida on a false charge that I pushed my wife onto a bed. We had only a verbal argument and she decided the next day to go to the police and lie about me pushing her. No police were ever called and nobody investigated.
Every man should understand that you have absolutely no rights when you are accused of such things. Any woman can say anything and the State will simply take her at her word; you are guilty and WILL be thrown in jail and prosecuted. Even after she told the prosecuter that I did not push her, I had a phone conversation recorded with her admitting that I did not push her, and her mother who witnessed the verbal argument was willing to testify that no pushing ever took place, the prosecutor still refused to drop the case. I lost over $40,000 dollars, had to take a plea so that my professional career would not be ruined with a domestic violence charge on my record, and now, even though my wife wants to reconcile and rebuild our family, I cannot due to the fear that she could simply get mad at anything and one day do it again to me and ruin my life with one statement. Thank you Florida for taking my rights away and destroying my family and leaving my son with a father he can only see ever other weekend. Well done!
Posted by david f on 01/04/09 07:52 PM
On 11/15/08 my life has changed for the worse because of the VAWA laws. My wife is an illegal alien because she went back to Mexico in 2000 while her INS papers were in process, then crossed back illegally while putting her life in danger. She saw people murdered, dead bodies floating in the Rio Grande, had my kid’s papers stolen, and held by human smugglers against her will.
I spoke with lawyers and INS professionals to resolve the problem and unless an amnesty program came, she needed to go to Mexico for six months while the papers were being processed again. My wife didn’t want to go back and do it the right way.
There are lots of other problems she has and it’s been making my life extremely stressful.
She has bipolar disorder and something else I say something else, because is it normal for someone with bipolar disorder to habitually lie? She refuses to get evaluated. She has been really abusive towards me for several years. She told me that in Mexico she tried to murder her stepfather; she said that she stabbed him in the back with a knife and bit off half his ear. She needs to get evaluated. We have three kids together, I don’t want to say but if I had known before, but I can’t, because I love my kids soo much. The problem is, what can happen to the kids with her mental disorder, are the kids in possible danger?
I go to work and come home to spend all time with my family. I do everything with them. I don’t have any friends, I didn’t know I would need them, I keep my family business to our family and I try to resolve everything with talking. I don’t know why it’s hard for people to believe me when I say that I do not yell at her, but I don’t. That is until Nov 8th of 2008, I had to do something, I did yell at her for telling my oldest son directly that I beat her up. One stupid thing is to manipulate strangers with lies, but to our kids, that’s insane, and I was pissed off the second she did it. This is the only time I yelled at her.
My wife has been setting me up for years making people believe I was abusing her physically and mentally. She is a habitual liar and she has been manipulating EVERYONE that she could with these lies. She has been manipulating the kids also; I had an argument with her about saying lies to the kids. On 11/08/08 in front of the kids, she said I beat her up and punched her in the face a year before. This incident happened in 2007, my wife was drunk and attacked me with a TYBO stick, her friend was there helping me restrain her, but comes the hearing and my wife’s friend doesn’t want to testify because she doesn’t want my wife to get in trouble, that’s what she tells me on the phone at my lawyer’s office, so she doesn’t answer the door when the sheriff went to her home to subpoena her (with 30 attempts!). The officer saw her in the living room watching TV.
Let me back up here two days to the 6th. My wife was arguing with my son about lying and she wanted me to scold him. I believed my son and she didn’t like it. On the 7th at 5:30am I was getting ready for work, she wakes up and I tell her not to worry about Davidsito (our son), I believe him and don’t tell him he is lying please. She started screaming “What the F%&*! you believe Davidsito and not me”?! I thought about it for a second thinking it’s my wife that keeps lying not my son, I shouldn’t be scolding the good kids for things she does, and I broke the iron next to my leg. She screams and screams “You mother %&*! You better buy me a new iron! I picked up the pieces, I didn’t say anything. She ran at me and started throwing objects at me and hitting me them, including a kids chair. I remained quiet and left for work.
After the argument on 11/08/08 several days passed and I had a surprise injunction order on me. The police kicked me out my home with only ten minutes to get ready with cloths and get out. I slept in the minivan for a few days. I just paid all the bills and had no money on me and I believe I must have given information too late to my lawyer. We weren’t prepared. My lawyer wasn’t familiar with the severity of this type of case and didn’t speak Spanish. At the end the judge extended the injunction order. I didn’t get to say almost anything in the court room and I found out afterwards that the judge never read my testimony statement. There are always two sides of a story and the judge didn’t hear mine, just a highlight. My wife told me her friend did the same with her husband to get her green card and it worked. I didn’t think my wife was going to do it.
She even spun the broken iron stories and said I threw it at her across the room, almost hit her and pieces flew on her. This is the same crap including her assault that she is flipping and lying about. Also she says I’m sexually abusive even though I wouldn’t touch her because I believe she’s been cheating on me, and she doesn’t have access to money, so I’m financially abusive even though she collects and uses the tenants money and uses it. I always make sure she has money even when money is tight. She said I teach the kids to believe in aliens and not God, what the F*&%! Couldn’t the judge see she was just making crap up and trying to make me look crazy? My lawyer didn’t help much either, he was just amazed at what she was saying in court and not questioning. The judge said he believed that she may be lying because she showed intent by something she said, but it didn’t matter.
My wife has been an abuser physically and mentally for several years but it is me and the kids that are paying the consequences.
She is vindictive to me for the problems that she has caused herself and she believes she has the right to do this to me because she doesn’t have her papers.
I have spoken to the most expensive attorneys and mid priced attorneys, my family wants to help by sacrificing their Christmas. All the lawyers I spoke with says the judge almost never change their previous ruling and it would take six months to contest so it would be better to take it to a divorce trial which may possibly be quicker, or at least may be the most logical way to handle this, and I can have her get a court order for a psychological evaluation. We’ll see. I have not seen my beautiful kids for about a month now.
My 9 year old son, which used to be an AB student, is now in therapy two days per week and is very depressed and doesn’t want to go to school. I am trying soo hard to restrain myself from saying how I really feel about all the branches of government and Judge Flemming of Kissimmee, Florida. I’ll just say sarcastically, “thank you for helping my criminal spouse in destroying my life and my children’s life”. I am not happy saying it that way. Taking these Batterers classes that is trying to brainwash me into thinking I’m a batterer is really good for my soul also. I’m really starting to feel like a batterer.
It’s my first Battering Intervention Class and the only thing they are saying is how I am an abuser and I need to accept what I am.
I read a posting on a web site, VAWA immigration fraud victims, and it says to report to ICE because they can investigate immigration fraud cases. I’m waiting for them to call me back.
Please someone out there, fix the VAWA laws for my children’s sake, it can possibly be very dangerous for my kids!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I spoke with lawyers and INS professionals to resolve the problem and unless an amnesty program came, she needed to go to Mexico for six months while the papers were being processed again. My wife didn’t want to go back and do it the right way.
There are lots of other problems she has and it’s been making my life extremely stressful.
She has bipolar disorder and something else I say something else, because is it normal for someone with bipolar disorder to habitually lie? She refuses to get evaluated. She has been really abusive towards me for several years. She told me that in Mexico she tried to murder her stepfather; she said that she stabbed him in the back with a knife and bit off half his ear. She needs to get evaluated. We have three kids together, I don’t want to say but if I had known before, but I can’t, because I love my kids soo much. The problem is, what can happen to the kids with her mental disorder, are the kids in possible danger?
I go to work and come home to spend all time with my family. I do everything with them. I don’t have any friends, I didn’t know I would need them, I keep my family business to our family and I try to resolve everything with talking. I don’t know why it’s hard for people to believe me when I say that I do not yell at her, but I don’t. That is until Nov 8th of 2008, I had to do something, I did yell at her for telling my oldest son directly that I beat her up. One stupid thing is to manipulate strangers with lies, but to our kids, that’s insane, and I was pissed off the second she did it. This is the only time I yelled at her.
My wife has been setting me up for years making people believe I was abusing her physically and mentally. She is a habitual liar and she has been manipulating EVERYONE that she could with these lies. She has been manipulating the kids also; I had an argument with her about saying lies to the kids. On 11/08/08 in front of the kids, she said I beat her up and punched her in the face a year before. This incident happened in 2007, my wife was drunk and attacked me with a TYBO stick, her friend was there helping me restrain her, but comes the hearing and my wife’s friend doesn’t want to testify because she doesn’t want my wife to get in trouble, that’s what she tells me on the phone at my lawyer’s office, so she doesn’t answer the door when the sheriff went to her home to subpoena her (with 30 attempts!). The officer saw her in the living room watching TV.
Let me back up here two days to the 6th. My wife was arguing with my son about lying and she wanted me to scold him. I believed my son and she didn’t like it. On the 7th at 5:30am I was getting ready for work, she wakes up and I tell her not to worry about Davidsito (our son), I believe him and don’t tell him he is lying please. She started screaming “What the F%&*! you believe Davidsito and not me”?! I thought about it for a second thinking it’s my wife that keeps lying not my son, I shouldn’t be scolding the good kids for things she does, and I broke the iron next to my leg. She screams and screams “You mother %&*! You better buy me a new iron! I picked up the pieces, I didn’t say anything. She ran at me and started throwing objects at me and hitting me them, including a kids chair. I remained quiet and left for work.
After the argument on 11/08/08 several days passed and I had a surprise injunction order on me. The police kicked me out my home with only ten minutes to get ready with cloths and get out. I slept in the minivan for a few days. I just paid all the bills and had no money on me and I believe I must have given information too late to my lawyer. We weren’t prepared. My lawyer wasn’t familiar with the severity of this type of case and didn’t speak Spanish. At the end the judge extended the injunction order. I didn’t get to say almost anything in the court room and I found out afterwards that the judge never read my testimony statement. There are always two sides of a story and the judge didn’t hear mine, just a highlight. My wife told me her friend did the same with her husband to get her green card and it worked. I didn’t think my wife was going to do it.
She even spun the broken iron stories and said I threw it at her across the room, almost hit her and pieces flew on her. This is the same crap including her assault that she is flipping and lying about. Also she says I’m sexually abusive even though I wouldn’t touch her because I believe she’s been cheating on me, and she doesn’t have access to money, so I’m financially abusive even though she collects and uses the tenants money and uses it. I always make sure she has money even when money is tight. She said I teach the kids to believe in aliens and not God, what the F*&%! Couldn’t the judge see she was just making crap up and trying to make me look crazy? My lawyer didn’t help much either, he was just amazed at what she was saying in court and not questioning. The judge said he believed that she may be lying because she showed intent by something she said, but it didn’t matter.
My wife has been an abuser physically and mentally for several years but it is me and the kids that are paying the consequences.
She is vindictive to me for the problems that she has caused herself and she believes she has the right to do this to me because she doesn’t have her papers.
I have spoken to the most expensive attorneys and mid priced attorneys, my family wants to help by sacrificing their Christmas. All the lawyers I spoke with says the judge almost never change their previous ruling and it would take six months to contest so it would be better to take it to a divorce trial which may possibly be quicker, or at least may be the most logical way to handle this, and I can have her get a court order for a psychological evaluation. We’ll see. I have not seen my beautiful kids for about a month now.
My 9 year old son, which used to be an AB student, is now in therapy two days per week and is very depressed and doesn’t want to go to school. I am trying soo hard to restrain myself from saying how I really feel about all the branches of government and Judge Flemming of Kissimmee, Florida. I’ll just say sarcastically, “thank you for helping my criminal spouse in destroying my life and my children’s life”. I am not happy saying it that way. Taking these Batterers classes that is trying to brainwash me into thinking I’m a batterer is really good for my soul also. I’m really starting to feel like a batterer.
It’s my first Battering Intervention Class and the only thing they are saying is how I am an abuser and I need to accept what I am.
I read a posting on a web site, VAWA immigration fraud victims, and it says to report to ICE because they can investigate immigration fraud cases. I’m waiting for them to call me back.
Please someone out there, fix the VAWA laws for my children’s sake, it can possibly be very dangerous for my kids!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Posted by Lynn P on 02/28/09 02:02 PM
have you gotten any relieve from this. i'm a 52 year old woman that was in an abusive relationship. i left my ex and he's come to my house, attacked me, tried to hit me with a car, then got a protection order on me! then, one night leaving a friends house, he's coming after me again, i call the police, i get arrested. now i'm on probation,agg assault which never happened, and he's calling my po! this was nothing more than he said, she said in broward county. i was falsly arrested, maliciously prosected so i couldn't sue. i need someone to see what's happening in florida! any help?
Posted by Lynn P on 02/28/09 02:04 PM
my ex is also a federally ricoed felon that did ten years, drugs, and now works in a strip club! i've never even had a speeding ticket! how does this happen and how can we stop it?
Posted by Robert T on 06/30/09 12:59 AM
Are you still looking for men that were falsely accused that were put in jail, lost their home, children and paid thousands of dollars to attorneys?
My story is beyond imagination about the failed legal system in Florida. I fled Florida and did not feel safe until I crossed the state line. I am now 3,000 miles away and will never step foot in the state again.
Posted by Robert T on 06/30/09 01:11 AM
I had the same experience. Just change the name and location and my story is the same.
I am now living 3,000 miles away out west. She is using my 14 year old son as a weapon and I have no idea when I ever see him again. It could be years.
Lost home, kids, and all the money went to the attorneys. The criminal charges were dropped by the State. Now she filed a Civil action.
I only assume her goal is to force me into bankruptcy, have the house she is living in go into foreclosure.
There is no legal system in Florida. Just like getting arrested in a 3rd world country. A complete joke.
Found out she was being directed by a men-hate group called DOVE. Real bad news. I was completely set up. She is a great actress and rehearsed her part perfectly. When Officer Latisha showed up, I was doomed. I never touched her! Just her wild false story.
I am now living 3,000 miles away out west. She is using my 14 year old son as a weapon and I have no idea when I ever see him again. It could be years.
Lost home, kids, and all the money went to the attorneys. The criminal charges were dropped by the State. Now she filed a Civil action.
I only assume her goal is to force me into bankruptcy, have the house she is living in go into foreclosure.
There is no legal system in Florida. Just like getting arrested in a 3rd world country. A complete joke.
Found out she was being directed by a men-hate group called DOVE. Real bad news. I was completely set up. She is a great actress and rehearsed her part perfectly. When Officer Latisha showed up, I was doomed. I never touched her! Just her wild false story.
Posted by David B on 12/03/09 11:55 PM
Im going through this now in Orlando, Fl. I need some advise if you could. My ex is saying that I tried to install some tracking device on her phone. She first went to Brevard County where the injunction was ordered back in Aug stating that I tried to do this. Well now she has went to Orange County and they called me asking me to come talk to them and asked me if I want for him (the cop) to send a car for me or will I come turn myself in. I have no money to fight this and I wonder when I will see my kids again and I also wonder how long I will sit in jail for something I didnt do. Any help would be appreciated.
Thanks
Posted by carlos r on 04/29/10 02:31 AM
I am a 35 year single father and caretaker of my disabled mother. 2 years ago i got a really good job but unfortunately i soon fell out of favor with some co-workers who where harassing me so i reported the harassment to H.R and the harassment stopped for a little while. I soon heard that some co-workers where spreading rumors that i would burn down the office building and that i was dangerous. I took this issue to H.R but did not file a complaint this time. My manager and director responded to my reporting by threatening my job.So i was forced to report once again and i believe they got into trouble for their actions but i am not sure,but this time period is when it really got bad i started hearing that one of my female co-workers was accusing me of stealing from her which is false she soon took it up a notch and was hollering around the office of a stalker and that she was afraid soon i had security following me around the office so i stayed as far as could from her.she responded by having one of her friends visiting me every morning and showing me pics of her backside and pics of penises and stating she wanted to cheat on her husband i knew she was friends with my accuser so i ignored her until she started e mailing me sexual jokes which can have me terminated so i reported again.My employer has responded by having security follow me everywhere i go even to the toilet i stay as far as away as i can from my accusers but they seem to find me at breakfast and lunch time even when i change my break times. I am in constant fear that i will be arrested based on false charges.This woman has many loyal friends who i believe are very willing to lie for her. What can i do to protect myself from these false accusation before i am formally charged? I know she has no real evidence but a few false witnesses and the worst part is i am treated like a criminal my employer will not speak to me about investigation at all even after a year of this torment they never notified me of any charges against me.the only thing they do is have security follow me and observe me all day while my accuser laughs and jokes about my situation openly mocking me ?? loudly in for the entire office to hear. nobody will tell me anything or even try to help what can i do to defend myself ??
Posted by Susan and Dennis W on 06/22/10 12:55 PM
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE VICTIM FACES MORE CHARGES THAN TIMES SQUARE BOMBER FOR CALLING 911 AFTER MULTIPLE ATTACKS ON HIM BY MARTIAL-ARTS-TRAINED GIRLFRIEND.
We live in New Hampshire and our son has been falsely accused of domestic violence.
This is our son's predicament on being indicted after being attacked and calling the police. He was facing 6 felony charges from last October. On May 10th of this year the prosecutor went before the third Grand Jury he has seen in this case and filed 4 more charges, felonies and misdemeanors. Our son now faces 13 charges, 8 of which are felonies - after calling the police after being attacked by a girl who admits in writing she attacked him that night and admits in writing she attacked him many times leading up to that night, and is trained and has trophies in Martial Arts.
We are in DESPERATE NEED OF SUPPORT here.
Again our son is facing years jail time on the felonies and there are misdemeanors he has been charged with as well.
Original Charges 9/25/09
1 Second Degree Assault - Felony 3-1/2 to 7 years
1 Simple Asault - Misdemeanor - 1 Year
TOTAL 8 Years
Incarcerated 14 days while we raised bail of $20,000
Superior Court Indictments 10/16/09
5 Second Degree Assault - Felony 3-1/2 to 7 years, Extended Term 10 - 30 years
2 Simple Assault - Misdemeanor - 12 Mos. HOC & $2,000
TOTAL 151 Years
Incarcerated 1 day while we raised bail of $10,000
Superior Court Indictments 5/12/10
1 False Imprisonment - Misdemeanor - 12 Mos. DOC & $2,000
1 Criminal Restraint - Felony - 3-1/2 to 7 & $4,000
1 Simple Assault - Misdemeanor - 12 Mos. HOC & $2,000
1 Second Degree Assault - Felony - 3-1/2 to 7 & $4,000
TOTAL 16 Years
TOTAL ALL 8 Felonies, 5 Misdemeanors, 175 years Incarceration, $12,000 in Fines
We expect the prosecutor to try to raise his bail yet a 3rd time when he appears in court on these new charges on June 24th. The first time he was indicted he spent two weeks in jail while we raised his bail, the second time a full day.
Again, we respectfully ask for some help, advice, support in this matter. Please contact Dennis at 603-275-6223 or Susan at 603-275-2716 if you would be willing to discuss this case with us or offer advice or support.
Thank you for your time.
Sincerely,
Dennis & Susan
Salem, NH
Posted by John P on 08/21/10 01:38 AM
John Pauls
1055. Mollison Ave #6
El Cajon, CA92020
Home: (619) 440-4150
Cell: (619) 244- 6784
Email: giovannipauls@nethere.com
1055. Mollison Ave #6
El Cajon, CA92020
Home: (619) 440-4150
Cell: (619) 244- 6784
Email: giovannipauls@nethere.com
Marriage Fraud Report
What is to follow is my accounting and summation of facts and truths that I will present to justify why I, John Pauls, (JP) born January ’07, 1954 should be granted withdraw a petition and an annulment or divorce of my marriage to my wife, Guangyan Zong, (GZ), who is 26 years of age.
On July 16, 2010. I filed an annulment or divorce in East County San Diego Court. (See exhibit 1).
1: I first met (GZ) on the Internet through “Chinese Kisses International Dating Program”, back in March 28, 2007. (See exhibit2)
2: We communicated for the next year and a half in which time we talked bout many topics. We also discussed our professions and goals for the future. I told her that I was looking for some one who would like to go into the, Clothing Business for I am a designer of ladies and men’s apparel. (GZ) seemed to be quite excited about this venture for she was a student of law in China and she felt she could help the business venture from the Business Law perspective. . (See exhibit 3)
As a matter of fact we decided to visit some Clothing Manufactures on my first flight to China in September of 2008. (See exhibit 4)
3: As time went by we fell in love with each other. I then, on September 10, 2008 flew to China for my first of 3 trips, at which time I met her family for the first time. We decided to get married on September 22, 2008. Her family seemed very pleased and excited (Exhibit 5)
4: We then apply to pursue her K-3 Visa when I, alone returned to the US. I then, at a later date re-visited China for the 2nd time. We traveled around visiting different sights including the Great Wall. I then returned to the US in October, of 2000. Upon my 3ird visit to China and return to the US, (GZ) flew to the US.
One month later, for the first time on, November2, 2009, with her K-3 Visa, in hand. At that time
my intentions were that we would then be together for the rest of our lives.
5: I have written other papers for my attorney’s review. These papers address many examples of (GZ’s) yelling, screaming and lose of temper. Also, out in public she would cause a yelling scene to draw attention to her so she would have witnesses. (Exhibit-6)
6-Police Report:
On May 10,2010 Guangyan Zong call Police ask for help, she did not say anything about Domestic Violence, on May11, 2010 following day GangyanZong after went to East County Family Justice Center she change her story so she can have right for staying in this U.S.A. (See exhibit -7)
7: From the beginning, in our relationship, I found that (GZ) knew about Immigration Law in the US and how to use the system to get her Visa quickly.(GZ) used other network programs such as, (blog.sins). She would go on line and chat and E-m with many girls that they too were applying for visas. Some to USA, Australia and Canada, to name a few. (Exhibit-8).
Example:
A: On July 9,2009 When we was chatting on line she was mad at me because I didn’t apply for CR1 visa (Exhibit –9)
B: On March 2009. G uangyan Zong call me and ask me to come to China and have Marriage Celebration
So will show this marriage is real,(Our married was on Sep,22. 2009). On May 5, 2009 we have the Marriage Celebration ( See exhabit-10)
.
C: O n March, 2010 we both work on Permanent Resident (Green Card) Application.
She told me do not summit the application until May because I will have my Green Card for 10 years
On March 17, 2010 she have her (Immigration Physical Exam) (See exhibit-11).
8-San Diego East county court
For the record, the charges of Physical Abuse were set aside, due to lack of evidence.
On August 5, 2010 the Restraining Order was DENIED by east county court.
(See exhibit 12).
9- Whole, Illegal Charade that this woman, (Guangyan Zong) has perpetrated upon me. It has cost me money, time, and mental anguish.
Also, as a result of this whole episode I ended up in the hospital due to being over stressed as well as having sleep depravation
At this point, declare to you or anyone else the truth of the matter, I NEVER physically abused and/or controlled her with food, clothing,or make her stay in her room.
I have friends and associate who are willing to come forth and write letters testify, or what ever to validate and support me in my claim. (See exhibit- 13)
I have many pics show that Guangyan Zong she eating and cooking what she like and she wear what she like and having fun visiting many placese in San Diego and L.A (See exhibit- 14)
On April 30, 2010 I bought 24 fitness membership for Guangyan Zong and also to the school.( See exhibit-16)
April 22,2010We discussed, me going to Iraq or Kuwait as an interpreter with the US Military or a period of a 1 year contract. She did not want me to go for she said it she wants her GREEN CARD and if I am not here she cannot get it. She also told this to my Sister In low, Zina Pauls.
The question that comes to my mind is, if I was so worried about her Associating or Talking with other men or not allow her to have friends , dress the way I want, leave home on her own ,talk on the phone ,controls her died then, why would I want to leave her along for 1year working for the U.S Military Gov.? Also, please note that after the first 6 months I would have a 15day leave coming to me and obviously I would come back to the San Diego to be with my wife.
A final note, to be award of. I work for the US Gov. Forces as an interpreter for the Military from 2007 to present. My duties are several besides interpreter. I also conduct classes in the cultural part of the foreign country at the time. I also have 5 certifications of appreciation enclosed. I am presently waiting to be sent to one of the Middle East
Countries for duty capability. (See exhibit -15).
In closing, let me say that from my perspective and feelings, this marriage was part of (Guangyan Zong) scam to use me to obtain her Green Card. It is a fraudulent marriage right from the start. Please feel free to contact me for any further information you might need and thank you for your time and patience in this matter.