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This article, just published in a Malta newspaper cites the work of researchers in 32 Countries:
The study called for a “fundamental revision” of almost all partner violence prevention and treatment programs and to align these programs with the data found.
It pointed out that “prevention and treatment of partner violence could become more effective if the programs recognize that most partner violence is mutual”.
Furthermore, it said that the domestic violence service system needs to replace the assumption that “partner violence is primarily the product of male dominance” but should be instead that partner violence is dominantly mutual violence.


Comment from Lee Newman of SAFE:
This research was originally released to the public during the spring of 2006. Dr, Murray Straus from the University of NH was interviewed for this article a year later and still nothing has significantly changed since he and I jointly presented this information on a NH TV appearance and since he presented testimony regarding this to the NH Commission on the Status of Men.

It's disturbing that in spite of many of us knowing about this research for over a year and attempting to act on it to continue our mission at SAFE, the mainstream domestic violence "industry" still does little to fully acknowledge our perspective or this body of evidence from experts in the field!

The public must eventually join in this effort and force government and privately funded agencies to do the right thing for all family members OR they must begin to privately support organizations like ours in our efforts so that we can provide needed services in an unbiased fashion.

If the "system" continues to ignore the "facts" , if the current providers of services continue to ignore the plight of victims based on gender, then families friends and private business must step forward and help to financially sustain programs like ours who do not discriminate! To do nothing about this is to leave members of everyone's families "out in the cold!"

Once the established system realizes that they are being penalized for turning their backs on legitimate victims and are being held accountable by families and friends of these ignored victims, they will either wake up and do what's right, or they will be left behind as they are replaced by a system that is inclusive of every victim and survivor not just a select class of them!

Consider this, if every member of the SAFE site gave the equivalent of 50 cents per week ($26 per yr) to us to sustain our mission, we would be able to help countless men and women from all walks of life, not just those selected by gender or lifestyle. (If 50 cents per week is to much, then please renew your membership yearly for $15, which is even less than 50 cents per week)

We could also continue the other part of our mission which is to help force "social change" by holding biased providers accountable, by helping to advocate for changes in the law, by continuing our efforts to educate families and professionals from other agencies, and eventually bring about the changes in the mainstream perspectives that will eventually help to sincerely, "Stop Abuse For EVERYONE"!

SAFE will continue to be a strong voice advocating for change while providing needed assistance to anyone who reaches out to us. However with your continued support including donations and volunteer efforts, our combined voices will not, can not, be ignored.

This article can inspire those of you who believe in true equality to also "do the right thing."

Join our mission, add YOUR voice to ours and "Make a Difference!"
Thank you,
Lee Newman
Executive Director: SAFE (Stop Abuse For Everyone)

What is interesting is the comments at the bottom of the page, which show the utter disbelief people that she could have shot him. I wonder if they would have had the same sympathy for him had she shot her?

767 men sought help in 2006.

http://www.iol.co.za/index.php?set_id=1&click_id=84&art_id=nw20070702141338214C428494

A state lawmaker is saying he was a victim of domestic abuse. He's being charged with domestic assault.

Whatever the truth may be, it's interesting to see how people would respond to this if the genders were reversed.