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This article is very interesting, because it talks about "new demographics" causing them to serve abused men, same sex victims, and immigrants. However, the article only focuses on abused women receiving help.

Very strange.

However, it's nice to see more services available.

https://www.safe4all.org/resource-list/view/63048

This really underlines how important the work SAFE is doing is..., although even if the rate is much less than that it would still be important!

New study on gay spousal abuse rates

An article on a radical website which describes abused men.

Article on domestic violence against men, featuring an interview with SAFE speaker Phil Cook.

Article on abused men

This article, just published in a Malta newspaper cites the work of researchers in 32 Countries:
The study called for a “fundamental revision” of almost all partner violence prevention and treatment programs and to align these programs with the data found.
It pointed out that “prevention and treatment of partner violence could become more effective if the programs recognize that most partner violence is mutual”.
Furthermore, it said that the domestic violence service system needs to replace the assumption that “partner violence is primarily the product of male dominance” but should be instead that partner violence is dominantly mutual violence.


Comment from Lee Newman of SAFE:
This research was originally released to the public during the spring of 2006. Dr, Murray Straus from the University of NH was interviewed for this article a year later and still nothing has significantly changed since he and I jointly presented this information on a NH TV appearance and since he presented testimony regarding this to the NH Commission on the Status of Men.

It's disturbing that in spite of many of us knowing about this research for over a year and attempting to act on it to continue our mission at SAFE, the mainstream domestic violence "industry" still does little to fully acknowledge our perspective or this body of evidence from experts in the field!

The public must eventually join in this effort and force government and privately funded agencies to do the right thing for all family members OR they must begin to privately support organizations like ours in our efforts so that we can provide needed services in an unbiased fashion.

If the "system" continues to ignore the "facts" , if the current providers of services continue to ignore the plight of victims based on gender, then families friends and private business must step forward and help to financially sustain programs like ours who do not discriminate! To do nothing about this is to leave members of everyone's families "out in the cold!"

Once the established system realizes that they are being penalized for turning their backs on legitimate victims and are being held accountable by families and friends of these ignored victims, they will either wake up and do what's right, or they will be left behind as they are replaced by a system that is inclusive of every victim and survivor not just a select class of them!

Consider this, if every member of the SAFE site gave the equivalent of 50 cents per week ($26 per yr) to us to sustain our mission, we would be able to help countless men and women from all walks of life, not just those selected by gender or lifestyle. (If 50 cents per week is to much, then please renew your membership yearly for $15, which is even less than 50 cents per week)

We could also continue the other part of our mission which is to help force "social change" by holding biased providers accountable, by helping to advocate for changes in the law, by continuing our efforts to educate families and professionals from other agencies, and eventually bring about the changes in the mainstream perspectives that will eventually help to sincerely, "Stop Abuse For EVERYONE"!

SAFE will continue to be a strong voice advocating for change while providing needed assistance to anyone who reaches out to us. However with your continued support including donations and volunteer efforts, our combined voices will not, can not, be ignored.

This article can inspire those of you who believe in true equality to also "do the right thing."

Join our mission, add YOUR voice to ours and "Make a Difference!"
Thank you,
Lee Newman
Executive Director: SAFE (Stop Abuse For Everyone)

What is interesting is the comments at the bottom of the page, which show the utter disbelief people that she could have shot him. I wonder if they would have had the same sympathy for him had she shot her?

767 men sought help in 2006.

http://www.iol.co.za/index.php?set_id=1&click_id=84&art_id=nw20070702141338214C428494

A state lawmaker is saying he was a victim of domestic abuse. He's being charged with domestic assault.

Whatever the truth may be, it's interesting to see how people would respond to this if the genders were reversed.

This conference is put together by a number of SAFE speakers and activists.

An article on groups supporting abused men's causes in Egypt.

The heading of this article may be incongruous because if you hear of abused victims you automatically think of them as women. This is what is usually the case since women are more susceptible to abuse; being under the control of men in marriage and in some families they are made to feel inferior to their male siblings. Then in the work place and other institutions they are subjects of sexual harassments. Above all, they are victims of rape, either when they are visited by armed robbers or unfortunate enough to fall into the trap of such wicked and lewd characters....

Welcome to the Peace4All Website

Peace4All (the Illinois Chapter of Stop Abuse For Everyone) is a
non-profit 501(c)3 organization located in Crystal Lake, Illinois.
We help people involved in domestic violence, including the victims,
children, and the aggressors.

Our website is: http://www.peace4allonline.org/

Our 24 hour Hotline is : 1-815-455-SAFE (7233)

Stop Abuse For Everyone has changed its mailing address. The new
address is:

16869 SW 65th Ave., PMB 212
Lake Oswego, OR 97035-7865

This is an excerpt from the American Daily Press Release: for the entire piece, please use the story link:

If your son was falsely accused of rape, and when he was proven innocent, still was not able to legally hold his accuser accountable, had suffered loss of reputation, not to mention the emotional toll on him and the changes in his personality…and yet had no recourse, how would you feel as the parent of this young man?

If you are a man and you are falsely accused of domestic violence or sexual assault under the laws we currently have, you will find yourself exactly where these young men from Duke University are.

Even though they have no case against them, they will carry the stigma of the accusations with them forever. The same goes for those with false allegations of domestic violence and with false restraining orders placed against them.

Not only do they become instantly prohibited from entering their homes, seeing their children and sometimes even lose their jobs but they are also under the threat of arrest, based simply on the “victim” claiming that they called or happened to see them in a public place.’

Ultimately, if the restraining order is dropped by the “victim” , that does not mean that the defendant won’t be tried in a criminal court for having “assaulted” their accuser.

Even if they are proven to be innocent, they will suffer the stigma of having been accused and some people will always assume the worst. False accusations and lack of accountability ruin the lives of many and it’s time for a change!

The following comment by Professor Jasmine Rault in this article is shortsighted and biased:
Although women do commit acts of sexual violence, Rault believes that it is "dangerous to begin talking about violence by women against men because this can take the emphasis and attention away from what's clearly a much larger problem, which is violence against women."(says cultural studies professor Jasmine Rault)

I have to wonder,what is Ms.Rault thinking?
How could including discussions and information about male victims of violence be "dangerous to women"? Maybe she should discuss these things with those of us who are on the front lines of this battle against abuse and those especially who approach this work from a perspective that is not gender biased or based in an outdated and incorrect premise!

Having listened to men and women who have been abused as well as some abusive partners of both genders over the years, I think that I and many other open-minded DV Advocates who assist everyone, regardless of gender will have opinions that differ greatly from this Cultural Studies Professor!

Violence against anyone is against the law and hurts the individual, regardless of gender! If you don't discuss these topics in a more gender neutral and inclusive way, you will only be addressing a fraction of the problem!

Domestic violence, Intimate Partner Violence or Sexual Violence is NOT exclusively what men perpetrate against women and when people like Professor Rault "sell the mainstream a bill of goods" that it is, she is doing a disservice to women as well as men.

Professor Rault and others who believe what she expresses in this statement should visit http//www.safe4all.org or http//www.SAFE-NH.org to look at the research and other information available there before she makes her judgements.

Victims of violence deserve no less!

Sincerely,
Lee Newman
Executive Director: SAFE International(
Stop Abuse For Everyone)
Director: SAFE-NH
(NH Chapter of Stop Abuse For Everyone)

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From the UK.

This organization: Swaziland Action Group Against Abuse (SWAGAA) has documented many male abuse cases. Anyone care to see what their organization is about?

''Battered men and women have instant access to medical help, restraining orders and spiritual counseling.''

It's a nice trend to see in news articles, and I hope it reflects the real services they're offering.

You can call the Center at (574)234-6900 with any questions. Someone care to call and ask what services they offer for abused men (straight and gay), and lesbian women?

The Independent newspaper has reported that the Spanish government may soon offer compensation to gay men who have been physically abused in the past on the basis of their sexuality.

Interesting article by SAFE advisory board member Glenn Sacks. Makes some excellent points!

This article is part of a trend toward more equal treatment of abused men in news reporting.

Interesting article.

The abusive woman and her boyfriend are actors, hired by "Primetime" for
a hidden camera experiment.

On previous shows, "Primetime" has staged scenes of abuse in which the
man is the aggressor, and the woman is the victim. And in these
situations, passersby — men and women — often stepped up and intervened.
So producers were curious. What would happen if the tables were turned,
and the man was suddenly the victim? Would people be just as willing to
come to his defense?

This staged scenario happens more often in real life than you may think.
According to Colgate University psychology professor Carrie Keating,
women abusing, even assaulting their male partners "is a big problem in
this country."

http://abcnews.go.com/Primetime/story?id=2741047&page=1

ABC News 20/20 was one of the first major TV forums to devote
substantial time to battered men in their Sept. 19, 1997 segment:
"Battered By Their Wives: Men Who Are Abused More Common Than You
Think". 20/20 has given coverage to battered men since then.

This story is from the UK

http://www.northjersey.com/page.php?qstr=eXJpcnk3ZjczN2Y3dnFlZUVFeXkzJmZnYmVsN2Y3dnFlZUVFeXk3MDU0NDEwJnlyaXJ5N2Y3MTdmN3ZxZWVFRXl5Mg==
http://www.rotoworld.com/content/playerpages/playerbreakingnews.asp?sport=NBA&id=303&line=74612&spln=1
http://seattlepi.nwsource.com/basketball/2030AP_BKN_Kidd_Marital_Complaint.html

AP story in ABC News' sports section:
http://abcnews.go.com/Sports/wireStory?id=2782267

AP story in Canadian media:
http://slam.canoe.ca/Slam/Basketball/NBA/2007/01/09/3256819-ap.html

coverage of earlier allegations that Jason Kidd abused his wife:

The following doesn't give the year, but it appears to be 3 or 4 years
ago:
http://abcnews.go.com/Sports/story?id=99928&page=1
http://abcnews.go.com/Sports/story?id=99684&page=1

Thanks to anonymous.