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Stop Abuse for Everyone (SAFE) is an organization that provides information, resources, a media campaign, educational brochures, an advocacy program, as well as, expert speakers on an array of abuse topics.

We differ from most organizations because we help victims that tend to fall in-between the cracks and have few services available to them.

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We are working on building a National Directory of Services for men, the disabled, the elderly, gay/lesbian/bi/trans, immigrants, teens, and more. If you have any shelters you would recommend, please contact us.

If there are not any services provided near you, try contacting your local domestic violence service provider, the Domestic Violence Hotline, the Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men & Women.  If you are in immediate danger, dial 911.

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National Survey: More men than women victims of intimate partner violence

According to a 2010 national survey by the Centers for Disease Control and U.S. Department of Justice, in the last 12 months more men were victims of intimate partner physical violence than women and over 40% of severe physical violence was directed at men. Also, men were the victim of psychological aggression and control over sexual or reproductive health more often than women. Despite this facts, fewer services are available to male victims of intimate partner violence than females. Click here to read article.

Male IPV victims are ridiculed, accused of being the batterer or referred to batter programs too often. DV agencies are less helpful than friends, mental health and medical personnel.

This is the first large-scale, nationally-based, quantitative study to systematically detail the help seeking experiences of men who have sustained IPV from their female partners. Results indicate that men who seek help for IPV victimization have the most positive experiences in seeking help from family/friends, and mental health and medical providers. They have the least positive experiences with members of the DV service system. Cumulative positive help seeking experiences were associated with lower levels of alcohol abuse; cumulative negative experiences were associated with higher rates of exceeding a clinical cut-off for post-traumatic stress disorder. Results are discussed in terms of implications for the social service sector and for future research. Click here to read article. More on the help men do or do not receive here

Hundreds of studies show similar rates of female-male and male-female intimate partner violence.

According to 249 studies (213 from the U.S.) between 2000 and 2010, approximately 1 in 4 women (23.1%) and 1 in 5 men (19.3%) experienced physical violence in an intimate relationship, with an overall pooled prevalence estimate of 22.4%. Analyses revealed considerable variability in rates as a function of methodological issues.

Across 111 studies of perpetrators, the overall pooled prevalence estimate was 24.8%. Consistent with prior reviews, pooled prevalence was slightly greater for female- compared to male-perpetrated physical IPV: more than 1 in 4 women (28.3%) and 1 in 5 men (21.6%) reported perpetrating physical violence in an intimate relationship. This pattern of results remained when we calculated pooled prevalence estimates by sample and study characteristics, with few exceptions. Findings underscore the need for interventions that acknowledge the use of violence by women in intimate relationships.

Fiebert’s updated annotated bibliography from 2012 examines 292 scholarly investigations; 224 empirical studies and 68 reviews and/or analyses, which demonstrate that women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners. The aggregate sample size in the reviewed studies exceeds 373,800.

Draft recommendation on IPV screening ignores men, ignores studies that IPV screening for males has as much predictive value as screening for men.

The United States Preventative Services Task Force recently released a draft recommendation that clinicians screen women for intimate partner violence, IPV, such as domestic violence. The recommendation report is blind to male victims of IPV , even though the 2010 CDC national survey demonstrated that more men than women are victims of IP physical violence. It ignores studies demonstrating the positive predictive value of IPV screening of men. Its evidence review found only three studies rated higher than “fair.” One was for screening for childhood sexual abuse. The authors of the other two later concluded that there was insufficient evidence to support IPV screening. The evidence review and draft report ignored studies and a significant meta-analysis that conflicted with its recommendation. Ignoring IPV against men harms women, since female-initiated IPV is one of the most important predictors of subsequent female injury. Click here to the read article. More on IPV screening here

When offender treatment is the focus, the results suggest that effectiveness could be enhanced by changing treatment programs to address assaults by both partners when applicable.  Straus, M.A. (2011) Gender symmetry and mutuality in perpetration of clinical-level partner violence: Empirical evidence and implications for prevention and treatment Aggression and Violent Behavior 16 (2011) 279–288

More on perpetrator treatment programs here. For more research on men and intimate partner violence, check out the MenWeb Online Journal at http://menwebjournal.com/Journal.htm


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